Suppose we have a Hamiltonian $H$ with eigenfunctions $\phi_1(\mathbf{x}),\ldots, \phi_n(\mathbf{x})$ and eigenvalues $E_1,\ldots, E_n$. What, if anything, does the matrix element
$$P_{mn} = \langle \phi_m | P| \phi_n\rangle = -i\hbar\int \overline{\phi_m}(\mathbf{x})\vec\nabla\phi_n(\mathbf{x})\,\,d^3x $$
represent?
In the specific case of an electron in an atomic potential, my textbook (Quantum Theory of Radiation by E. Fermi) claims that this represents the momentum of the electron and it can immediately be proved that $$-i\hbar\int \overline{\phi_m}(\mathbf{x})\vec\nabla\phi_n(\mathbf{x})\,\,d^3x = -im\nu_{mn}X_{nm}$$ where $$\nu_{mn} = (E_m-E_n)/\hbar$$ and $$X_{mn} = X_{nm} = \int \phi_n(\mathbf{x})\,\mathbf{X}\, \phi_m(\mathbf{x}) \,d^3x$$ where $\mathbf{X}$ is the position vector operator. I don't follow his claim.