I like this question, because it combines 3 intro-level quantum analogies that are fine for chemists, but are insufficient for physicists.
Let's start with the orbital: it is not a probability cloud. This gives the impression of a point electron bee-bopping around the atom, and if you were to look where it is, you would just find it where it is, with a probability distribution.
That is problematic. 1) because you can't look where it is. It's a measurement that can't be done. It's a thought experiment. 2) because a probability cloud is classical, and hence: wrong.
The electron is described by a wave function which is the complex square root of a probability cloud--whatever that means. I recommend using it as a tool to do calculations, and then maybe think about what it means later.
(On a side note, it also gives the impression that the nucleus is a rock solid point, with the electron doing all the quantum stuff--no, we solve the hydrogen atom in reduced mass coordinates: the proton is also in a matching wave function)
Then we have the part about the electron exchanging virtual photons with the nucleus. That is a quantum field theory thing, so hold on.
The probability cloud also gives the impression that the electron is moving. An important part of eigenstates of the Schrödinger equation is that they are stationary states: they never change, other than an arbitrary unobservable global phase factor that rotates at $E/\hbar$. Now there is a probability current (that is not velocity), that rotates around the nucleus in $L\ne 0$ states, but it is also stationary.
Now the virtual photons: the quantum mechanical solution to atomic orbitals is an approximation in a static background electric field. When you "turn the field on", e.g., make it a dynamical variable, several things happen:
The eigenstates are no longer exact. There is an interaction hamiltonian that links states, and hence they can transition. They are no longer stationary states, and the energy is no longer exact. This is good: it allows atoms to change.
So now we no longer have an exact analytical description of an atom, since the system includes the EM field out to infinity. It's too much.
Nevertheless, you can still break it into approximate pieces and do calculations. This involves perturbation theory, and that is described in powers of $\alpha$ (maybe squared), and these terms can be written with diagrams of virtual particles. This does not make virtual particles real. They are just pieces of an approximation to a quantum field linking states.
They are useful, when used properly, and cause all kinds of confusion when taken seriously, esp. in a non-relativistic fashion where they "borrow energy" from the vacuum (in relativistic QFT, they don't do that).
Finally: the double slit (YDSE). The amplitude to go from initial ($i$) to final state ($f$) is the sum (or path integral) of all possible paths linking $i\rightarrow f$, and in the 2 path approximation to the YDSE, you add the amplitudes for both paths and get interference.
If you observed the electron going through one slit, then that is the path it takes, so you can't add any other amplitudes. It doesn't matter how you measure it: photon, entangled partner, whatever. If you know it, there is no 2-slit interference pattern.
Now when it goes through one slit, you still don't know where it went through the slit, which has a finite width. In that case, you have to integrate over all positions in the slit, et voila: that gives you the Fourier transform of the slit, and that is a diffraction pattern.
So the takeaway is: don't take classical description of QM too literally, don't take virtual particles too literally, and know what approximations you're description of a system is making (and you have to make them, or the problem cannot be solved).