We know that $m_1$ is less than $m_2$ from solar neutrino measurements of the MSW effect. Here's a quote from a paper that addresses this
Solar neutrinos allow to fix the sign of $\Delta m^2_{21}$for the standard value of $V_e$. The sign determines the resonance channel (neutrino or antineutrino) and the mixing in matter. The facts that due to smallness of the 1-3 mixing the problem is reduced approximately to the $2\nu$-problem and that suppression of signal averaged over the oscillations at high energies is stronger than 1/2, selects $\Delta m^{2}_{21} > 0 $.
-- Solar neutrinos and neutrino physics, Maltoni & Smirnov.
Put simply we measure the survival probability of solar neutrinos to be (more or less) like this...
Image from Wikipedia.
Where the probability at low energies is ~60% and at high energies is about 30%.
If $\Delta m^{2}_{21}$ were negative you would see at high energies the survival probability dip to some value of ~50% at ~1MeV then go back up to ~60% at higher energies. (Caveat, most of the numbers above are made up, take them with a grain of salt).