How can one tell they are accelerating
Drop a ball [or as @Dale said, use an accelerometer... a ball on a spring or set of springs].
(As @m4r35n357 commented, this issue is primarily a [Galilean] Principle of Relativity question... having little to do with any special relativistic features.)
Here are a few frames (superimposed) from
Ivey and Hume's Frames of Reference video
https://archive.org/details/frames_of_reference
(You can probably find it on YouTube [with slightly different timestamps].
However, this archive.org URL should be more permanent than YouTube.)
Inertial
At t=4m22s , this is a ball dropped from a cart at rest in the inertial-Lab frame.
When released, there is no horizontal force on the ball, hence it has constant horizontal velocity in the Lab.
It lands at the base of the stand.
At t=5m25s , this is a ball dropped from a cart in uniform motion in the inertial-Lab frame.
When released, there is no horizontal force on the ball, hence it has constant horizontal velocity.
It lands at the base of the stand.... just like it was at rest-and-inertial.
Accelerated
At t=14m06s , this is a ball dropped from a cart in accelerated motion in the inertial-Lab frame, viewed from the Lab.
When released, there is no horizontal force on the ball, hence it has constant horizontal velocity.
It lands behind the base of the stand [since the cart has sped up due to its acceleration].
At t=14m33s , this is a ball dropped from a cart in accelerated motion in the inertial-Lab frame, viewed from the nonInertial-Cart frame.
When released, there is no horizontal force on the ball in the inertial-Lab frame, hence it has constant horizontal velocity in the inertial-Lab frame.
It lands behind the base of the stand.
So, the accelerated observer can tell he or she is accelerating because the ball did not land at the base, as it would for an inertial observer (whether at rest or in motion).
An accelerated observer [boxed up in his or her frame]
would not be able to use the same laws of physics
written down by an inertial observer to describe the situation.
Some "fictitious" force would have to be inserted to "explain" the result.
From the OP,
But if everything in the rocket is equally accelerated,
I would say that this experiment shows that not everything is equally accelerated.
If you deny the use of this or similar experiments (that is, to choose not to look at something), then [it seems to me that] your question is really asking "What can I conclude from an incomplete set of experiments?".