For a system of two identical particles, where $r_1$ is the position vector of particle 1 and $r_2$ is the position vec. of particle 2, the wave function should be one of the plus or minus states: \begin{equation} \psi _ \pm (r_1,r_2) = A [\psi _a(r_1) \psi_b (r_2) \pm \psi_b(r_1) \psi_a(r_2)] , \end{equation} where $\psi_a$ and $\psi_b$ are the wave functions of particle 1 and 2 respectively [equation 5.10 of Griffith's Intro to Quantum Mechanics 2nd Ed.].
I see that this equation makes the wave function $\psi_\pm$ treat the two particles identically, but I don't know of any proof that it is actually the only way of writing this wave equation to treat them identically. For example, why not a wave function like: \begin{equation} \psi _ \pm (r_1,r_2) = A \sqrt{\psi^2 _a(r_1) \psi_b^2 (r_2) \pm \psi^2_b(r_1) \psi^2_a(r_2)}~? \end{equation}