Throughout much of the 20th century there was debate about whether Gravitational Waves were real, and whether or not they carrier energy and could be detected. It is often presented that Feynman's 'sticky bead argument' was the strongest convincer:
a passing gravitational wave should in principle cause a bead on a stick (oriented transversely to the direction of propagation of the wave) to slide back and forth, thus heating the bead and the stick by friction. This heating, said Feynman, showed that the wave did indeed impart energy to the bead and stick system, so it must indeed transport energy
My question is: why doesn't the stick itself move in exactly the same way the bead does? i.e. at the location of the bead, why is there ever a relative velocity between the bead and the stick?
The same point seems to be brought up in this (presumably flawed) paper.
I'm kind of assuming the answer is that the electromagnetic force (which keeps the stick 'rigid'), acts with coordinate/comoving distance instead of proper distance? If so, how do we know that that is true?