You're not being consistent in your terminology, and that's causing confusion.
For example, you say that "Electric force depends on charge and electric field." The equivalent statement for gravity would be "Gravitational force depends on mass and gravitational field." (Newtonian) gravitational force doesn't depend on space (or time) any differently from the way (non-relativistic) electric force does. The "field" is just a way of describing the forces acting on local test charges.
You can replace electric charge with gravitational mass, and electric field with gravitational field, and you get closely analogous situations, at least as far as most undergrad physics problems are concerned. (Differences arise on close inspection for several reasons, most prominently because electric charge can have either sign, but gravitational mass always has the same sign. Gravity's also deeply interwoven with the nature of spacetime and is a spin-2 field as opposed to electromagnetism's spin-1 field.... but delving into those differences will take us pretty far afield.)
Also, you can generate magnetic fields with moving electric charges and such effects are also responsible for the "magnetic force"'s velocity dependence. The "magnetic force" is just an "electric force" with relativistic effects. (If you hear folks talk about the Lorentz force or electromagnetic waves, it's because they're conscious of the coupling between electric and magnetic effects.) You can even get a gravitational counterpart in systems with large masses moving at relativistic speeds.
These fields and forces fall off due to distance, but because of the finite speed (c
) of electromagnetic and gravitational waves, there are also time delays so that they act not on the current displacement between charges, but on the displacement the charges had at a previous time... it's just that as long as everything's moving much slower than light, that slight delay doesn't make a measurable difference.
In summary: the forces do depend on the relative time between charges, but the time scale is very short, of order D/c
, where D
is the separation and c
is the speed of light, with higher-order effects that scale with v/c
, where v
is the relative speed of the charges. If you track those time delays and higher-order effects explicitly, electromagnetic and gravitational effects seem more similar.