So I've been trying to wrap my head around GR for a bit now, but one thing that keeps me down is the idea that while earth bends spacetime around us, the earth is also accelerating towards us at $9.8\text{ m/s}^2$, which is why objects accelerate towards it at that rate. However, I haven't been able to source this claim, it comes up independently in the information I am consuming. One claim by "ScienceClic English" claims that the geological forces of the earth itself is expanding the earth at a rate of $9.8\text{ m/s}^2$ while the curvature of spacetime keeps earth the same size. You can imagine my difficulties sourcing this as all results on "expanding earth" in any variation returns debunking of the expanding earth theory itself. The other claims do not go into any detail, they merely claim that the earth is accelerating "up" at $9.8\text{ m/s}^2$.
What is the deal with this? I feel a force acting upon me, so already there's the natural intuition towards gravity existing. Yet we know gravity isn't a real force, I am just experiencing the curvature of spacetime, but what else? What governs the law that things fall towards the earth at $9.8\text{ m/s}^2$ on earth?