1) Potential energy is the part of the energy of the system that gives rise to what we normally think of as force. The walls of a box might be more intuitive if thought as a thing that exerts a force as soon as you touch it. You might know that force is given by the negative of the gradient of the potential
$$ \mathbf{F}=-\nabla V$$
let's stick to $1$ dimension and suppose your potential is given by something like this
$$V_\epsilon(x)=\frac{\epsilon}{x^2+\epsilon^2} $$
you can play with it on a grapher tool and see that it's some sort of bell curve, and it resembles more and more an infinite wall as $\epsilon \rightarrow 0$. What's the force generated by this potential?
$$F=\frac{2\epsilon x}{(x^2+\epsilon^2)^2} $$
if you plot this, you'll notice that as $\epsilon \rightarrow 0$, it's very negative, crosses $0$ at $x=0$, and quickly becomes very positive as $x$ becomes positive. In other words, it repels anything that tries to touch it, and this effect is more localized and pronounced as the potential becomes more similar to an infinite spike. This is what we would imagine a wall to behave like.
If you imagine the potential as "a hill" that a ball must climb to roll on the other side, the picture is even clearer.
2) A complete answer would be the first half of an undergrad quantum mechanics book, but long story short, wave functions one usually considers in chemistry are energy eigenstates, i.e. solutions to the Schrödinger equation. You might now that physical quantities in QM are represented by Hermitian operators, and you might know that solving the time independent Schrödinger equation is equivalent to finding the eigenvectors and eigvenvalues of the Hamiltonian operator $H$.
$$H|\psi_n\rangle =\lambda_n |\psi_n\rangle $$
Imagine now that you find another Hermitian operator, $A$, that commutes with $H$, i.e. $AH=HA$. It's a known fact of linear algebra that commuting diagonalizable operators are simultaneously diagonalizable, so there must be some basis of the Hilbert space
$$|\psi_{n,m}\rangle $$
such that
$$H|\psi_{n,m}\rangle=\lambda_n|\psi_{n,m}\rangle\qquad A|\psi_{n,m}\rangle=\mu_m|\psi_{n,m}\rangle$$
more generally if there are $k$ operators $A_1,\dots, A_k$ that commute with $H$ and each other, there is a basis akin to the one above with a set of eigenvalues for each operator.
This is what the quantum numbers label: given all the quantum numbers (and the eigenvalues they label) you can reconstruct the vector as the unique eigenvectors of all the commuting operators simultaneously.
What do these quantum numbers label? This is clearer if we shift to the Heisenberg picture: for an observable $O$ the Heisenberg equation (excluding explicit time dependence) is
$$\frac{d}{dt} O(t)=i[H,O(t)] $$
so it's clear that operators that commute with the Hamiltonian correspond to conserved quantities! In other words:
- Conserved quantities commute with the Hamiltonian, and in this way they can be perfectly defined together with the energy (the uncertainty principle does not affect them!).
- As a consequence, they can label eigenstates of the Hamiltonian (wave functions), and a particular state can be reconstructed entirely from these values.