To answer this question we will need a few formulas:
- Kinetic energy: $E_k = \frac{1}{2} m v^2$; this is the energy tied to movement. $m$ is the mass of the moving object, $v$ its velocity.
- Potential energy: $E_p = m g h$; this is the energy an object can spend if descending from height $h$. $g = 9.81$ m/s$^2$.
- Newton's second law: $F = m\, a = m \frac{\Delta v}{\Delta t}$; this is the force a body of mass $m$ receives if it changes its velocity of a quantity $\Delta v$ in a time $\Delta t$. I assume the mass remains constant, otherwise the formula should change slightly. As a rule of thumb, a force of 10 N is roughly equivalent to having 1 kg laid on a body.
- Acceleration: $a = \frac{\Delta v}{\Delta t}$; you can obtain the number of "g"s by dividing that number by 9.81 m/s$^2$.
Forces are measured in Newtons (N), energies in Joules (J). Other units will be expressed as SI units (kg for masses, m/s for velocities, m for lengths, s for times).
Let's talk about the first issue, the difference between hitting a wall and sliding on tarmac. For any kind of driver there are three main velocities to consider that can depend on the country you live but are all around the same values: city speed (50 km/h or 13.9 m/s), countryside speed (90 km/h or 25 m/s) and motorway speed (130 km/h or 36.1 m/s). For the rider I assume a mass $m$ = 80 kg. The mass of the motorcycle is irrelevant if the two separate during a fall.
Using the formula for kinetic energy, we can see easily that the energies for the three velocities are 7.7 kJ, 25 kJ and 52 kJ. As you can see, energy builds up quickly with the increase of velocity. This is the energy the rider alone has to dissipate if it stops, independently of the chosen method.
If you divide these three energies by $m\, g$ you can obtain the equivalent height of a vertical fall, without air friction. These heights are respectively around 10 m, 32 m and 66 m.
The real problem comes now. We talked about energy, but this isn't enough to understand what happens during a fall. For a better understanding we have to use forces. We know what $\Delta v$ is, it's the final speed (0 m/s) minus any of the speeds indicated above. Since we are not really interested in the direction of the force, we can neglect the fact that $\Delta v$ is negative and simply say that $\Delta v$ is the initial velocity. $\Delta t$ on the other hand is a little more tricky. It depends on the initial velocity both in the case of a collision with a wall and of the slide, but in different ways. To simplify a little bit the problem, i'll assume that it is instead constant. For the head-on collision the time interval is surely short, but not instantaneous. I'd estimate 0.05 s as an average. For the slide I watched a few videos on youtube and I think 5 s are adequate.
With these numbers we can calculate that for the collision the rider receives a force of 22 kN (28 g), 40 kN (51 g) and 58 kN (74 g) respectively, while for the slide the forces are 220 N (0.3 g), 400 N (0.5 g) and 580 N (0.7 g). I want to stress that these are rough estimates, but they should give you an idea of what these numbers mean. The first three are literally crushing forces, while the other three are probably only painful.
For the second part of your question, as Andrew already pointed out, some quantities don't seem to make sense. 50 J of energy seems a really small quantity if compared to a force of 20 kN. I can only suppose the energy involved is 50 kJ, this would be more plausible. In any case, the numbers given above, even if a crude estimate, should be enough to give you a basic understanding of what is going on.