In the case of the Black Hole (BH) the surface is a few Km from the center of mass whereas in the case of an active star with the same mass as the BH, the surface can be be many millions of Km distant from the center of mass. Therefore, because the inverse square law of distance, gravity in the case of a giant star is much more less on the surface of the star than in the case of the event horizon of a BH with the same mass.
However, for an external observer far away, a homongous mass giant star with a surface escape velocity equal the speed of light should theoretically appear as a dark star similar to a BH?