I've recently been discussing the time symmetry or lack thereof for GR. One take that I see frequently is that GR is time symmetric, and therefore conserves energy, on local scales (e.g. those where universal expansion is negligible).
This lead me to consider the simple case of throwing a ball in the air. The ball loses kinetic energy as it travels upwards. We say that energy conservation is satisfied by converting this kinetic energy into GPE. But is energy actually stored this way?
If I grant a ball kinetic energy from my arm, this increases the mass, increasing the gravitational force felt by the ball. But since the ball now has more mass, this also changes the GPE (at the starting moment). And the change in the gravity due to the extra mass also changes the GPE. But since GPE should be equivalent to mass as well under $e=mc^2$, this causes a recursive self-interaction. I attempted to calculate these self-interactions and it seems like under most circumstances they converge, but in more "fun" cases like a 1kg mass some distance away from Sagittarius A*, it seems like you can get infinities for GPE. For things below the event horizon that feels weird but not necessarily broken, but it should definitely not occur for objects 100 light years above.
For conservation of energy to hold even in the simplest situations like throwing a ball, it seems like GPE should obey the normal rules of energy, like causing curvature and being equivalent to mass. But considering what happens in these cases seems to lead to some strange outcomes which I feel are big red flags. Is GPE actually a real energy? Or would it be more accurate to say that it's more of a mathematical convenience?