I am trying to read from Goldstein for self-study but I am stuck on equation 1.33. Let me restate some of the lines from Goldstein (with some modification):
If $\textbf{F}_{ij}$ (internal force, force exerted on particle $i$ by particle $j$) depends only on the relative positions $\textbf{r}_{ij}$ and can be derived from a scalar potential energy function $V_{ij}(\textbf{r}_{ij})$ with $V_{ij}=V_{ji}$ then
$$\textbf{F}_{ij}=-\nabla_{i}V_{ij}$$ and
$$\textbf{F}_{ij}=-\nabla_{i}V_{ij}=+\nabla_{j}V_{ij}=+\nabla_{j}V_{ji}=-\textbf{F}_{ji}.\tag{1.33}$$
Now, I am not able to understand how I can prove $-\nabla_{i}V_{ij}=+\nabla_{j}V_{ij}$. After trying a lot I think the problem is that probably I didn't understand $\textbf{F}_{ij}=-\nabla_{i}V_{ij}$ properly. Though I do understand that for conservative forces we can express the force as negative gradient of potential. But I guess the indices here is what I don't understand. My understanding of equation $\textbf{F}_{ij}=-\nabla_{i}V_{ij}$ is that we are taking gradient of $V_{ij}$ with respect to the coordinates of the $i$th particle. But then I don't know how to prove $-\nabla_{i}V_{ij}=+\nabla_{j}V_{ij}$. Please help.