We can treat this as a problem of solving 2 equations of 2 variables. If we define $F_1 \left(\mu,\Delta\right)=\Delta-\int f\left(x,y,\Delta,\mu,h\right)dxdy$ and $F_2 \left(\mu,\Delta\right)=1-\int g\left(x,y,\Delta,\mu\right)dxdy$ then the problem becomes finding a $\left(\mu^{*},\Delta^{*}\right)$ which is a simultaneous root of both $F_1$ and $F_2$.
For some vector function $\vec{F}:\mathbb{R}^{n}\to\mathbb{R}^{n}$, we can find a root (i.e. solve $\vec{F}\left(\vec{x}\right)=\vec{0}$) with the multivariable Newton-Raphson method. Starting with some guess $\vec{x}_{old}$, calculate the Jacobian matrix $J(\vec{x}_{old})$ of $\vec{F}$. If an analytic expression for the Jacobian is known, we use that (evaluate it at $\vec{x}_{old}$). Otherwise, we compute the derivatives in the Jacobian as finite differences, $\frac{\partial F_{i}}{\partial x_{j}}\left(\vec{x}_{old}\right)=\frac{F_{i}\left(\vec{x}_{old}+h\hat{e}_{j}\right)-F_{i}\left(\vec{x}_{old}\right)}{h}$ (here $\hat{e}_j$ is the $j$ unit vector). Now we look for a $\vec{\delta}$ such that $\vec{x}_{new}:=\vec{x}_{old}+\vec{\delta}$ will be closer to a root. So we stipulate $\vec{F}(\vec{x}_{new})=\vec{0}$. Applying a linear approximation around $\vec{x}_{old}$, we have $\vec{0}=\vec{F}(\vec{x}_{new})\approx \vec{F}\left(\vec{x}_{\text{old}}\right)+J\left(\vec{x}_{\text{old}}\right)\vec{\delta}$, and hence to find $\vec{\delta}$ we must solve the matrix equation $J\left(\vec{x}_{\text{old}}\right)\vec{\delta}=-\vec{F}\left(\vec{x}_{\text{old}}\right)$. This is done with Gaussian elimination. Now $\vec{x}_{new}=\vec{x}_{old}+\vec{\delta}$ is our new guess, and we repeat this process until convergence.
In general there can be multiple such roots, and this method will converge to just one of them.
This algorithm is detailed well in the book Numerical Recipes (see chapters 9.6, 9.7). The book discusses some silghtly fancier algorithms too, which are likelier to converge when the initial guess is a bit farther from the root. All of the necessary code can also be found there.