What does it mean in terms of relativity that the earth rises to meet the sky-diver? if the sky-diver is accelerating downwards, that isn't a force (in Einsteinian mechanics). If acceleration is absolute between reference frames, does that mean that since the sky-diver is accelerating it does NOT appear that the earth is rising up to meet them?
There are two distinct concepts of acceleration. One is called proper acceleration and the other is called coordinate acceleration.
Coordinate acceleration is the second derivative of the coordinate position. This type of acceleration is relative to the chosen coordinate system.
Proper acceleration is the acceleration measured by an accelerometer. This type of acceleration is invariant (what you called “absolute”) meaning that all reference frames agree on it.
These two concepts of acceleration are connected as follows. In an inertial frame an accelerometer that is momentarily at rest will have the same proper acceleration and coordinate acceleration.
An accelerometer on the ground measures an invariant acceleration of $1\ g$ upwards, and an accelerometer attached to a free falling sky diver measures an invariant acceleration of $0$.
In the ground’s frame the ground has $0$ coordinate acceleration and the sky diver has a coordinate acceleration of $-1 \ g$. Neither of these match the proper acceleration, so the ground’s frame is non inertial.
In the sky diver’s frame the ground has an acceleration of $1 \ g$ and the sky diver has an acceleration of $0$. These both match the proper acceleration, so the skydiver frame is inertial.
If the gravity is not a force then why does the falling speed of the diver seem to accelerate? is this just a pseudo-force? or is it something else?
Indeed, it is an inertial force due to using the non-inertial reference frame of the ground.