If we take a side view the initial state of your system looks like this:
It should be obvious that the force at each finger/ruler contact is $mg/2$, and therefore the frictional force is:
$$ F = \tfrac{1}{2}mg\mu_s $$
where $\mu_s$ is the coefficient of static friction. Now you start to pull your fingers apart, and one of your fingers will slide first. Which finger will slide isn't predictable because it depends on minor details like how sweaty the two fingers are, whether you have minor muscle tremors, whether the fingers are at exactly the same angle and no doubt many other details. Let's assume the right finger slides first so the system now looks like this (I've exaggerated the amount of movement to make the diagram clearer):
I've labelled the finger that didn't slide $1$ and the finger that did slide $2$. The forces are no longer the same because the system is no longer symmetrical, though of course they must still add up to $mg$.
Now, the frictional force at finger $1$ is $F_1\mu_s$, and the frictional force at finger $2$ is $F_2\mu_d$, where $\mu_d$ is the dynamic friction. Note that dynamic friction is generally lower than static friction so $\mu_s > \mu_d$, though actually this won't make a difference to our conclusions. So we have three possibilities:
$F_1\mu_s > F_2\mu_d$ in which case finger $2$ carries on sliding
$F_1\mu_s < F_2\mu_d$ in which case finger $2$ stops sliding and finger $1$ starts sliding
$F_1\mu_s = F_2\mu_d$ in which case both fingers slide
It's pretty easy to show that case 1 applies. There are three forces acting, $F_1$, $F_2$ and the weight of the rod $mg$. We'll take moments about the centre of the rod, which means that the moment due to the weight of the rod is zero, and we get:
$$ F_1 d_1 = F_2 d_2 $$
or:
$$ F_1 = F_2 \frac{d_2}{d_1} $$
and because $d_2 > d_1$ the ratio $d_2/d_1 > 1$ and therefore $F_1 > F_2$. If we take our condition 1 above and rearrange it slightly to:
$$ F_1 > F_2\frac{\mu_d}{\mu_s} $$
We just proved that $F_1 > F_2$, and we know that $\mu_d/\mu_s < 1$ because dynamic friction is less than static friction, so we've proved that:
$$ F_1\mu_s > F_2\mu_d $$
and condition 1 applies.
Our conclusion is that as soon as a finger slips even a little bit the friction between that finger and the rod is reduced while the friction between the other finger and the rod is increased. So whichever finger slides first will carry on sliding.