OP's ket first equation $$\tag{1} \hat{p}|x\rangle ~=~+i\hbar\frac{\partial |x\rangle}{\partial x}$$ is explained in eq. (7) of my Phys.SE answer [here](http://physics.stackexchange.com/a/172089/2451). In short, eq. (1) is consistent with the corresponding bra equation $$\langle x |\hat{p} ~=~-i\hbar \frac{\partial \langle x |}{\partial x} $$ via Hermitian conjugation. The bra equation in turn is related to OP's second equation $$ \tag{2}\hat{p} ~=~ -i\hbar \frac{\partial }{\partial x} $$ via the standard convention $$\psi(x)~=~\langle x | \psi \rangle$$ for the wave function.