This is a very interesting question. My first instinct is to say that they are, by definition, sharp changes in the form of the distribution of probability of microstates, that occur even for small changes in the macrostate. So, there are plenty of examples of physical systems where changes happen gradually. Phase transitions are the ones where they don't, by definition.
The Ising example
I'm guessing this answer won't satisfy you, and it doesn't satisfy me either. So, let's have a look at the simplest example I can think of, the all-to-all Ising model without an external field. Here, every spin $i$ has a lower energy if it's aligned to average field of the others, and a higher one if it's anti-parallel to it. $$ H_i = -Jm\sigma_i $$ where $\sigma = \pm 1$ is the spin direction, $J$ is a positive constant, and $m$ is the average field that the spin "feels". Now, the point is that this $m$ is itself generated by the other spins: $ m = \sum_j \sigma_j.$ You can see, then, that there is a non-linear self interaction of the group of spins. Without going into the details (you probably know them already), it turns out that there's an equation for $m$: $$ m = \tanh(Jm).$$ It's easy to see that this has 0 as a trivial solution; however, it also has two additional solutions (as you can see by plotting both sides of the equation) when $J>1$, and these happen to be stable. This shows why there is a phase transition in this system. For $J\leq 1$, there is one solution. For $J>1$, there are two. There is no such a thing as "one solution and a half", of course, so this is necessarily a discontinuous difference. So my second answer is: it descends from the weirdness of certain nonlinear equations that govern the system. This is also related to the mathematical concept of bifurcation.
Having a look at Landau theory may help you understand how this is not limited to the Ising model.
Symmetries
Another way of putting it is connected with the concept of symmetry. The disordered phase has a higher degree of symmetry than a state of the ordered phase: an Ising model with zero magnetisation is invariant under up/down flipping of the whole system; a non-synchronised Kuramoto model has undefined average phase of its oscillators, which gives it $U(1)$ symmetry.
However, once the oscillators synchronise, they will have a given global phase. When the spins align, they may randomly align in the "up" or the "down" direction, but they have to collectively choose one. This is referred to as spontaneous symmetry breaking. As far as I know, symmetries can't be half-broken.
Gas/liquid/solid
I don't know enough about these transitions to tell you about the physical details, but my guess is that something analogous to what I described above also happens in this case. However, these are first order transition, which follow different formalisms, and don't obey Landau theory. Some interesting points about those are made in this answer to a different question.
I hope this gives you some intuition.