Liénard-Wiechert:
$$ E = \frac{q}{4\pi\epsilon_0} \frac{(1-\beta^2)}{(1-n\cdot\beta)^3}\frac{n-\beta}{|r-r_s|} $$
where $ n =\overline{r-r_s} $
$ \beta = v/c $
This is the first term of $E(r,t)$ from Wikipedia.
That thing in the denominator $ \frac{1}{1-n \centerdot\beta} $ is not symmetric in the direction of motion. the dot product is positive when n and beta are the same direction, and negative when they are opposite directions. We divide by a number that's less than one in one direction and bigger than one in the other. It will give a graph that looks a lot like the first picture in the original question (flipped around if the signs of the source and target charges are different) and not like the second picture at all.
This is a picture of the magnitude of the force at the red dot from particles moving to the right at $v = 0.5$.
This is a picture of the magnitude and direction of the force, $v = 0.5$.
SO:
The Griffiths derivation and the Liénard-Wiechert derivations are different as follows:
$$ E = \frac{q}{4\pi\epsilon_0} \frac{(1-\beta^2)}{(1-n\cdot\beta)^3}\frac{n-\beta}{|r-r_s|} $$
$$ E = \frac{q}{4\pi\epsilon_0} \frac{(1-\beta^2)}{(1-\beta^2\sin^2\theta)^\frac{3}{2}}\frac{n-\beta}{|r-r_s|} $$
I eventually got a copy of Griffiths and found out what he's talking about. L-W uses retarded time. Griffiths does not. His distance $|r-r_s|$ is the distance between the charges in present time. His angle $\theta$ is the angle between the constant velocity and the location line in current time.
Basicly he's saying "This is what the force would be if it acted instantaneously between charges right now."
That works for constant velocity because the retarded-time position can be computed easily and directly from the current time position (and constant velocity), and vice versa.
I'm not clear what this result is good for, but this is what it's about.