In anisotropic dielectrics, the electric field $\vec{E}$ and the displacement field $\vec{D}$ are no longer necessarily orthogonal. The mathematical reasons are the connection between the two fields:
$$ \vec{D} = \underline{\epsilon} \vec{E} \tag{1} $$
where $\underline{\epsilon}$ is tensor- (matrix) valued and therefore the two fields may point (in principle) in arbitrary directions. Let's consider an uniaxial crystal with one optical axis. If the wave vector $\vec{k}$ is not aligned parallel to it, it is possible to let the plane wave propagate as an extraordinary wave. The refractive index this wave sees depends on the angle between $\vec{k}$ and the optic axis.
In the derivation, one usually solves an equation and obtains the indicatrix equations. This basically boils down to a diagonalization.
Intuitively, I would expect that if $\vec{D}$ coincides with the extraordinary eigenvector of said diagonalization, that
$$ \vec{D} = \epsilon \vec{E} \tag{2} $$
where now $\epsilon$ is a scalar and therefore $ \vec{D} \parallel \vec{E} $. But that is obviously not correct.
My question is therefore, what is the correct intuition here? Why are the two fields in the same plane with $\vec{k}$ but not parallel for extraordinary waves? I sometimes see the construction with $\vec{E}$ being orthogonal to the surface of the indicatrix, but this does not really help me because it does not really explain why $\vec{E}$ should point that way in the first place. Is there a way to see this more clearly?