So I've been doing some research for a while now, and yesterday came across the video of PBS space time talking about what happens to quantum information in a black hole. In the thought experiment about Bob and Alice, he does mention that when approaching the black hole, Alice doesn't get spaghettified but pancakified because of the small tidal forces of the black hole. The argument is that indeed this black hole was so big that the difference in pull, at the human scale, was not great enough for her to experience spaghettification.
So now I came with a question, maybe a dumb one at it, but why does spaghettification appear so much more frequently than pancakification? I've personally never heard of pancakification, and is very triggering since the two phenomenas are quite extreme opposites.
So I thought that maybe, for ordinary scale black holes, spaghettification is the one phenomena happening, as opposed to supermassives black holes, that would be much bigger than ordinary ones. And so, since those black holes are less frequent, would be talked about as "special cases" of black holes, making the pancakification phenomena less talked about. But since that is only a hypothesis, I don't know if it could also be tied to what black holes it is (such as kerr, Schwartzchild, [...]). I also don't quite get the pancakification phenomena either, but i'll try to do some more research on the subject and ask another question later (I'm new at this, can we have two questions in the same post?) I don't know much about the physics behind them either, I'm only in 12th grade, so I'd hope you could go easy on the mathematics, but any answer would help me a lot!