I understand (supposedly) the mathematics concerning the relativity of simultaneity in Special Relativity, but I have a nagging question regarding the original example given by Einstein supporting it (I'm only disagreeing with this specific example, not the concept).
It is normally given as a person on an embankment and a person on a train. There is a relative speed between them (usually presented as the train passing the embankment). Now, when both people are at the same x-position (x=0), there is a flash of light at x = +dx and x = -dx. The argument as I keep seeing it is that the person on the embankment will say that both flashes reach him at the same time, whereas the person in the train will say that the flash in front of him reaches him before the other because he was moving toward it, and thus the observers will disagree on the simultaneity of the flashes.
But given that the flashes occurred at the same distance from each of them, the speed of light is constant in both frames, and either one can claim to be at rest, then won't they, according to SR, necessarily see the flashes as simultaneous (both flashes have to travel the same distance in both frames since at the time of emission, the sources of both flashes were equidistant from both observers). I agree that the person on the embankment will say that the person on the train shouldn't see them as simultaneous (and vice versa) since either observer will see the other moving relative to the sources, but in each of there own frames, they must see the flashes as being simultaneous shouldn't they? Am I just misunderstanding the example?