Measuring the spin with an arbitrary angle $\theta$ with respect to the plane xz we obtain the spin operator (multiplying Pauli matrices per the projection $(\cos\theta,\sin\theta)$)
$$\hat{\mathrm{S}}_{\hat{n}}=\sin(\theta)\hat{\mathrm{S}}_x+\cos(\theta)\hat{\mathrm{S}}_y=\frac{\hbar}{2}\left[\begin{array}{cc} \cos (\theta)& \sin(\theta) \\ \sin (\theta)& -\cos(\theta) \end{array}\right]$$
and when diagonalized, thr eigenvectors and eigenvalues found are
$$\left[\begin{array}{l} \cos(\theta/2)\\ \sin(\theta/2) \end{array}\right],\quad\left[\begin{array}{c} -\sin(\theta/2)\\ \cos(\theta/2) \end{array}\right]$$
you can write the up component from the z axis basis to the arbitrary direction basis:
$$\left[\begin{array}{l} 1 \\ 0 \end{array}\right]=\cos(\theta/2)\left[\begin{array}{l} \cos (\theta/2) \\ \sin (\theta/2) \end{array}\right]-\sin(\theta/2)\left[\begin{array}{c} -\sin (\theta/2) \\ \cos (\theta/2) \end{array}\right]$$
and the down:
$$\left[\begin{array}{l} 0 \\ 1 \end{array}\right]=\sin(\theta/2)\left[\begin{array}{l} \cos (\theta/2) \\ \sin (\theta/2) \end{array}\right]+\cos(\theta/2)\left[\begin{array}{c} -\sin (\theta/2) \\ \cos (\theta/2) \end{array}\right]$$
In Bell type experiments you measure first with an angle $\theta$ the first particle and $\theta'$ the second. Substituting $\theta$ for $\theta'$ everything is the same.
The state of the 2 particles needs to be up-down or down-up for conservation of angular momentum:
$$|\psi\rangle=\frac{1}{\sqrt{2}}(|ud\rangle_z-|du\rangle_z)$$
So the probability of for instance up-up (up in each particle in each direction set by each angle) is:
$$P=|_{\theta}\langle u|_{\theta'}\langle u|\psi\rangle|^2=\ldots=\frac{1}{2}|\sin(\theta/2)\cos(\theta'/2)-\sin(\theta'/2)\cos(\theta/2)|^2=\frac{1}{2}\sin^2(\Delta/2)$$
with $\Delta=\theta'-\theta$.
But my question is: if the initial supersposition had a change in the pase and we had a plus sign, i.e.,
$$|\psi\rangle=\frac{1}{\sqrt{2}}(|ud\rangle_z+|du\rangle_z)$$
we would obtain a sum of angles, not a difference. And the result the books show is a difference of angles, so you need the initial state with a minus. How is this possible? How is it that the phase is so important? Am I missing something?