Some of you description is good (e.g., there are shells), but the details are incorrect.
One problem is your picture: it clearly shows 3 preferred directions in the $P$ orbitals. There are clearly 3 preferred axes defining special alignment.
The problem is: how does a neon atom know how you have defined your axis direction? It doesn't. Physics is independent of coordinate choices.
Note that:
$$ \sum_{l=-m}^m Y_{lm}^*(\theta, \phi)Y_{lm}(\theta, \phi) \propto 1 $$
which means any full shell is spherically symmetric.
If you look at chemists' version of orbitals (which are linear combinations of the physicists' version), you have $P_x, P_y, P_z$. Note that (in the angular coordinate):
$$ P_z = Y_{1, 0}(\theta, \phi) \propto r\cos\theta = z$$
Likewise for $P_x$ and $P_y$, so:
$$P_x^2 + P_y^2 + P_z^2 \propto x^2 +y^2+z^2 = r^2$$
which is spherically symmetric.
The neon atom does not care about your coordinates.
(A usefully exercise is get your favorite plotting tools and do a polar plot of $r(\theta) = \cos^2\theta$ and $r(\theta) = \sin^2(\theta)$...they are individually somewhat dumbbell shaped, but the sum is clearly a circle).
Another problem is the labeled electron being in a specific orbit. If you label an orbital by:
$$|\psi\rangle_1=|n,l,m\rangle$$
and a two particle orbit by:
$$|\psi\rangle_{12} =|n, l, m\rangle_1| n', l', m'\rangle_2$$
and so on for $n$ particles. (The subscript labels the electron).
For brevity, I will ignore spin, and show a 5-particle wavefunction using the Slater determinant:
$$|\psi\rangle=\left |
\begin{array}{ccccc}
|1,0,0\rangle_1 & |2,0,0\rangle_1& |2,1,-1\rangle_1& |2,1,0\rangle_1& |2,1,1\rangle_1 \\
|1,0,0\rangle_2 & |2,0,0\rangle_2& |2,1,-1\rangle_2& |2,1,0\rangle_2& |2,1,1\rangle_2 \\|1,0,0\rangle_3 & |2,0,0\rangle_3& |2,1,-1\rangle_3& |2,1,0\rangle_3& |2,1,1\rangle_3 \\|1,0,0\rangle_4 & |2,0,0\rangle_4& |2,1,-1\rangle_4& |2,1,0\rangle_4& |2,1,1\rangle_4 \\|1,0,0\rangle_5 & |2,0,0\rangle_5& |2,1,-1\rangle_5& |2,1,0\rangle_5& |2,1,1\rangle_5 \\
\end{array}\right |
$$
where the determinant is a convenient notation for creating the fully anti-symmetric wavefunction under particle interchange.
(A 10-particle wave function would have $10!=3,628,800$ terms--so no, not going to write that out).
It is really the formal form of the Pauli Exclusion Principle (PEP). Saying "no electron can be in the same quantum state" is really not sufficient. The correct formulation is that the multi-electron state must be antisymmetric under interchange of any two particle labels.
That is the crux of the PEP: the whole reason you need to fill shells is because you need 5 different states to have a non-zero wavefunction that is antisymmetric under interchange of any pair of electrons.
What that means is that there is no "1st electron" that fills the $S$ state and so on; rather, each electron is entangled in all states.
It is not a result that can be interpreted classically, in which electrons have an individual identity. Electrons are not just identical: they are indistinguishable.