I'm interested in studying two neutron stars orbiting each other and producing gravitational waves. In textbooks the calculation for the power of the radiation is done by considering the neutron stars as points in space. Is this an approximation? If I were to consider them as 3-dimensional objects (for example, numerically using discrete sampling), would I get different value for power or does the spherical shape make it so that this approach would give the same answer as just considering the neutron stars as points?
Edit: I'll try to clarify the problem. When calculating the energy-momentum tensor $T$ for the system of two neutron stars orbiting in a circular orbit, usually the calculation is made simpler by shrinking all of the mass of the neutron star into it's center of mass. My question is, would the result for power change if I didn't do this and instead calculated the energy-momentum tensor by considering the neutron star as it is. Hope this clarifies the question.