From the point of view of a far-away observer of a black hole, is the gravity on an infalling object near the event horizon very strong or very weak?
There are two competing effects: On the one hand, the gravity felt by the infalling object is increasing with decreasing distance, but on the other hand, gravitational time dilation approaches infinity near the event horizon, that means that the clock of the infalling object is slowed down close to zero with respect to the clock of the far-away observer. Which effect is dominant at the event horizon?