This is a fairly basic question that I may be making longer than necessary. But it has plagued me for some time. It is essentially this: In what space do abstract physical vectors like a velocity vector "live"? In what space do the various n-tuple representations of the abstract vector live? and in what space the various $n\times 1$ column vector representations live? By "space" I mean things like vector spaces or manifolds.
Example: Let's keep it simple and limit consideration to just basic flat 3-space and forget about things like covariant and contravariant indices. Consider some vector $\vec{\mathbf{u}}$. let's say it is the instantaneous velocity vector of a bird but it doesn't matter. We can expand this vector in any basis we like as (summation over $i=1,2,3$):
$$\vec{\mathbf{u}}=u_i\hat{\mathbf{e}}_i=u'_i\hat{\mathbf{e}}'_i$$
for arbitrary bases $\hat{\mathbf{e}}_i$ and $\hat{\mathbf{e}}'_i$ (or any other basis we can conceive of in flat 3-space) which we'll take to be orthonormal. The above $u_i=\vec{\mathbf{u}}\cdot\hat{\mathbf{e}}_i$ and $u_i'=\vec{\mathbf{u}}\cdot\hat{\mathbf{e}}'_i$ are simply the coordinates of the vector $\vec{\mathbf{u}}$ in certain bases. But the vector $\vec{\mathbf{u}}$ cares not at all about these coordinates. It exists regardless of any coordiante system or basis we impose on it.
But, given some basis, we can then define a 3-tuple or, similalrly, a column vector, to represent the vector $\vec{\mathbf{u}}$ in this basis,
$$\mathbf{u}=(u_1,u_2,u_3) \; \in\mathbb{R}^3 \qquad\qquad [\mathbf{u}]= \begin{bmatrix} u_1 \\ u_2 \\ u_3 \end{bmatrix} \in\mathbb{R}^3 $$
(I have omitted the arrow over top to distinguish these from $\vec{\mathbf{u}}$) I often see books and papers simply define the vector itself in one of the above ways as a 3-tuple or column vector. But these are not the vector $\vec{\mathbf{u}}$ are they? They are representations (charts) of $\vec{\mathbf{u}}$ in certain bases. There is only one vector but an infinite number of 3-tuples and an infinite number of column vectors one can use to represent it and they are meaningless unless a basis is specified along with them. For instance, the 3-tuple and column vector representation of the same vector but in some other basis (say, the principle axis of some other flying bird) would be
$$\mathbf{u}'=(u'_1,u'_2,u'_3) \; \in\mathbb{R}^3 \qquad\qquad [\mathbf{u}']= \begin{bmatrix} u'_1 \\ u'_2 \\ u'_3 \end{bmatrix} \in\mathbb{R}^3 $$
where $u_i \neq u'_i$. And if $\dot{\vec{\mathbf{u}}}$ is the time-derivative of the vector $\vec{\mathbf{u}}$, then $\dot{\mathbf{u}}=(\dot{u}_1,\dot{u}_2,\dot{u}_2)$ is, in general, not the 3-tuple representation of $\dot{\vec{\mathbf{u}}}$ (unless the basis asociated with he 3-tuple $\mathbf{u}$ happens to be an inertial basis).
my actual question: I have written that the 3-tuples $\mathbf{u}$ and $\mathbf{u}'$ "live" in $\mathbb{R}^3$. Is that correct? I have written that the column vectors $[\mathbf{u}]$ and $[\mathbf{u}']$ also live in $\mathbb{R}^3$. Is that correct? (I feel like one must be wrong because how can you add a tuple to a column vector? they are different objects.) My main question is where does $\vec{\mathbf{u}}$ itself live? It can't be $\mathbb{R}^3$ because that would imply you could add $\vec{\mathbf{u}}$ to it's 3-tuple representation $\mathbf{u}$ which makes no sense to me. I often write $\vec{\mathbf{u}}\in\mathbb{E}^3$ and say that $\mathbb{E}^3$ is the manifold that is flat 3-space but I don't truly comprehend what that means (and I guess if $\vec{\mathbf{u}}$ is a velocity vector it would actually be in the tangent bundle of $\mathbb{E}^3$).
Similarly, for tome 2nd order tensor, $\mathbf{T}$ (which we could expand in terms of coordinates in some basis as $\mathbf{T}=T_{ij}\hat{\mathbf{e}}_i\otimes\hat{\mathbf{e}}_i$), I often denote the matrix representation of $\mathbf{T}$ (in some specified basis) as $T\in \mathbb{R}^{3\times 3}$. But where does $\mathbf{T}$ itself live? Would I say $\mathbf{T}\in\mathbb{E}^3\otimes\mathbb{E}^3$?
background: I have a BS in physics and current PhD student in engineering. I have a good understanding of cartesian tensor algebra/calculus. I have a poor/rudimentary understanding of differential geometry and calculus on manifolds. But enough that you don't need to totally avoid those subjects if they are needed to answer my question.