I have a lot of confusion on special relativity. I am going to use the muon example because that's what was clearest for me to visualize.
A muon generally decays too fast for it to reach the earth from where it is created in the atmosphere, but we detected them here on earth because they go so fast they experience relativistic effects.
From the muons frame, there is length contraction: its going the same speed in a shorter amount of time, which makes enough sense to me. From the muons frame, the change in position between it and the earth between it's creation and detection is smaller than in the frame of the earth. i.e. $$\Delta x_e=\gamma \Delta x_m$$ (I think, sorry if I have the equation wrong).
But the frames were chosen somewhat arbitrarily: why couldn't we say the exact opposite: earth is experiencing time slower than the muon, and the distance traveled is shorter in the earth frame?
I know I have some fundamental misunderstanding about relativity here (and I think similar questions have been asked but I haven't found one with an answer that I really understood), so any help would be greatly appreciated.