If I understand correctly, the crux of your question is:
Why not use $F = mr\alpha$ to explain the change in an object’s rotational motion instead of torque?
Reason #1: A more general case of concentrated mass
There are a few reasons, but the first good reason is that the $r$ in $\tau = Fr$ and the $r$ in $mr^2\alpha$ are not always the same $r$! For example, consider this pendulum, shown in the figure below, whose mass is mostly concentrated at the point $r_1$ from the pin (the point about which the pendulum rotates). A real-world example would be a carbon fiber pendulum rod with a lead ball embedded in the middle. Lead has a significantly higher density than carbon fiber, so we may sometimes be able to discount the inertia of the rod and only consider the inertia of the lead ball.

The force could be applied at a different point on the pendulum ($r_2$ in the drawing). In the above case, the moment of the force (or torque, if you prefer) is $F r_2 \sin(\theta)$. The rotational inertia is $mr_1^2\alpha$. So we cannot simplify the expression to $F\sin(\theta) = mr\alpha$. Instead we have
$$Fr_2\sin(\theta) = mr_1^2\alpha$$
This expression is often written in terms of torque $\tau = Fr_2\sin(\theta)$ and the mass moment of inertia $I = mr_1^2$:
$$\tau = I\alpha$$
Reason #2: Distributed mass
Unlike the pendulum example above, most real bodies have distributed mass across their entire volume. In that case, their mass moment of inertia must be calculated with volumetric integrals. Without getting into the math-y details, we can split a body into many tiny pieces, each with their own small mass $dm$ and is located some distance $r$ from the center of rotation. That value of $r$ will be different for each piece! We need to account for the moment of inertia of every piece: $r^2dm$. Performing the summation of the moment of inertia of all those tiny pieces yields the mass moment of inertia $I$ of the object about the center of rotation. If in our pendulum example above the entire thin rod was made of lead instead of having a concentrated mass at the center, the mass moment of inertia would be $I = \frac{1}{3}mL^2$, where $L=r_2$ is the length of the rod.
If we insert that expression into the equation $\tau = I\alpha$ we get
$$\tau = \frac{1}{3}mr_2^2\alpha$$
or
$$Fr_2\sin(\theta) = \frac{1}{3}mr_2^2\alpha$$
In this specific case where the force is applied at $r_2$ (the end of the pendulum), we could simplify to
$$F\sin(\theta) = \frac{1}{3}mr_2\alpha$$
but that does not capture the general idea of torques and moments of inertia. It only describes the dynamics of this particular system at this particular instant.