The main error in reasoning is in forgetting that general relativity deals with curved spacetime while OP's intuition is about curved space, disregarding the time component. Separation between two nearby timelike geodesics is given by geodesic deviation equation. And in most spacetimes of physical interest time components of curvature tensor appearing in the equation are important. For example, in the weak field limit of GR, where Newtonian gravity applies, this separation is approximately:
$$
\frac{d^2 X^i}{dt^2}\approx - R^{i}_{0j0}X^j\approx \frac{\partial^2 \Phi}{\partial X^i \partial X^j} X^j,
$$
where $\Phi$ is the Newtonian gravitational potential. While the contribution from purely spatial parts of curvature tensor would be small post-Newtonian corrections that could be ignored in many cases.
There is a class of spacetimes where the OP's argument almost works: so-called ultrastatic spacetimes, where there is a timelike Killing vector field $\xi$ with a constant norm $\xi_\mu \xi^\mu=-1$ and where there is a hypersurface $\Sigma$ orthogonal to $\xi$. This Killing vector field defines a reference frame (generally unique for a given spacetime, so it would indeed be a preferred frame) such that static observers are inertial and thus there would be no acceleration needed to maintain constant separation.
The wording “almost works” and “generally unique” is connected to another misconception on OP's part, that curvature would be either positive or negative. But, if the dimension is greater than $2$, curvature must be characterized by a tensor, so e.g. parallel lines can diverge along one direction and can converge in another. This also means that in a curved space it is possible to have directions displacements along which would not generate accelerations for equidistant observers, and so even in the ultrastatic spacetimes the preferred rest frame may not be unique. Consider e.g. a direct product $\mathrm{M}^{1,1}\times S^2$ of two dimensional Minkwoski spacetime and a sphere: instead of a single timelike KVF it has infinite number of them related by Minkowski boosts.