I am studying the production of gravitational waves in linearized general relativity. While it is not mentioned anywhere, I am convinced, that the coordinates used in the derivations I have seen, are cartesian.
For example the Energy-Momentum-Tensor is taylor-expanded in Maggiore page 106:
$$T_{kl}\Bigl(t-\frac{r}{c}+\frac{\boldsymbol{x'}\cdot \boldsymbol{n}}{c},\boldsymbol{x'}\Bigr)~\approx~T_{kl}\Bigl(t-\frac{r}{c},\boldsymbol{x'}\Bigr)+\frac {x'^in^i}{c}\partial_tT_{kl}+...$$
Where the derivative is evaluated at the point $(-r/c,\boldsymbol x')$, $\boldsymbol{x'}$ is a position vector and $\boldsymbol{n}$ is the unit normal vector pointing from the source to the observer. So the dot-product is $\boldsymbol{x'}\cdot\boldsymbol{n}=x'^in^i$ which suggests cartesian coordinates. But if spacetime is curved, there is no way to have cartesian coordinates. It already seems odd to me that the position can be described by a vector $\boldsymbol{x'}$ which is generally not possible in general relativity.
There are many other passages that make me think, that flat space coordinates are used. But this one seems to be very clear.
Now, the condition on which the equation above is based is that spacetime is described by
$$g_{\mu\nu}(x)=\eta_{\mu\nu}+h_{\mu\nu}(x)$$
which means that spacetime is nearly flat and the coordinates are nearly Lorentz coordinates i.e. nearly cartesian spatial coordinates. But nearly flat does not mean totally flat and I haven't seen any kind of argument explaining, why one can use a position vector or treat the coordinates just in the same way as one would treat cartesian ones.
So my questions are:
(1) Am I right in my interpretation, that the coordinates are treated just as cartesian ones here and in linearized theory in general (meaning linearized around $\eta_{\mu\nu}$ of course)?
(2) If so: Why can we do that? I tried to make an argument myself, checking for example if one could show that the Pythagorean Theorem is valid up to Order $\mathcal{O}(h^2)$ but I didn't have any success...