I'm sorry if this sounds like a silly question. I think I am jsut missing some key insight. But take the Schwarzschild solution, which describes the spacetime around a static spherically symmetric mass (but I also want ask about any other kind of spacetime). The metric is $$ ds^2 = -(1-\frac{r_s}{r})dt^2 + \frac{r^2}{1-r_s/r} + r^2d\Omega^2.$$ My question is, whose coordinates are these $(t,r,\theta,\phi)$? Are these the coordinates associated with an 'observer' at the center of the gravitating mass? But is that problematic at all because of the singularity at $r=0$?
Maybe this can further explain my question. Suppose someone is on a circular orbit. Their proper time elapsed between each orbit is shorter than the coordinate time $t$. In special relativity, it's been said that time dilation and length contraction for a moving observer in our frame aren't literally happening (because in their frame, it is us whose is contracted) but rather we just see that a clock that they're carrying is slow compared to our clock, or a ruler they're carrying is shorter compared to our ruler. So, in this case, who is the observer using the clock with coordinate time $t$ who sees an orbiting person's clock run slower compared to theirs? Because surely if these coordinates are the coordinates of someone orbiting, they should see that the elapsed coordinate time $t$ is their proper time, right?
Then, what if we had a complicated mass distribution and we solved for the metric in some coordinate system? How would we know which or what kind of observer those coordinates belong to?
EDIT: I was asked to clarify my question. I'm not sure if this helps, but another way I thought of this is as follows. Let's say everyone around a star is using the Schwarzschild coordinates, and a person in a circular orbit at fixed radius $R$ starts their orbit at $t_1$ and closes the orbit at $t_2$. Since everyone is using these coordinates, would they all say the time elapsed for an orbit at that radius is $t_2-t_1$? And what if there were another person orbiting at a greater radius $R'$ but moving faster, such that they both start at $t_1$ and end at $t_2$. They should measure different proper times, but why wouldn't everyone agree that the time elapsed is $t_2-t_1$ for both of the orbiters since everyone is using Schwarzschild coordinates? Where does proper time (which changes depending on the radius) come into this?