I'm trying to clarify the definition of simultaneity and/or relative simultaneity - for now, only with respect to two different reference frames that are not moving relative to each other.
There should be no confusion, when we say two events are simultaneous such as lightening striking two trees simultaneously according to an observer/machine midway between them that can measure such events to the required accuracy.
But if there is another observer closer to one tree than the other such a machine/observer would detect the nearer strike sooner but do we still say the strikes are simultaneous to that observer because that observer/machine knows that he is closer to one tree than the other and would have to compensate? This really is a question about definition: If we have to take into account the speed of light and distance to the observer for simultaneity when NO ONE is moving, if moving, yes, it all changes.