Do "almost black holes" exist? The only things I read about so far in astrophysics are either black holes, developing black holes or not black holes at all.
So I am wondering, is it physically possible to have an object that is almost a black hole, but not a black hole. What I mean by that, is an object that would have a gravitational pull almost as strong as a black hole, but not equal, so light would be bent and considerably slowed down, among other effects yet able to escape.
I am not a physicist so I use my own words. The point of my question, if this helps, is to know if we can/could observe and study such objects as intermediary between non-blackholes and blackholes with its own properties. Again this is NOT about the formation of black holes. So maybe such an intermediary object is impossible because things are binary (like starting the process of black hole formation would not stop).
Also I know there are massive objects that are not black holes for example neutron stars but they do not seem to have "almost black holes" radiations.
 A: Neutron stars
(The question is written informally, so my answer is. "For simplicity" <smirk>)
Neutron stars are massive, incredibly dense, hence have very strong gravity; but not so strong that light cannot escape. It has no "event horizon"; but you wouldn't want to be near it.
Related: Quark star (a hypothetical type of star even more dense than a neutron star). – Comment added by @DevSolar - thank you!
A:  The conformal limit 
For simplicity, consider non-rotating compact objects. A non-rotating object with mass $M$ becomes a black hole when its radius $R$ is
$$
 R = 2\frac{GM}{c^2}
\tag{1}
$$
where $G$ is Newton's gravitational constant and $c$ is the speed of light. Equation (1) is the Schwarzschild radius. According to ref 1, in order to avoid becoming a black hole, the radius of a compact object must be
$$
 R\gtrsim 2.83 \frac{GM}{c^2}.
\tag{2}
$$
Equation (2) is the conformal limit (ref 4), sometimes also called the causality constraint (but beware that the latter name is also used for something different).$^\dagger$ It comes from the equation of state for ultrarelativistic particles (ref 2), where the pressure $P$ and density $\rho$ are related to each other by $P=\rho c^2/3$. This, in turn, means that the speed of "sound" in a compact object is limited by $v\equiv \sqrt{dP/d\rho}\leq c/\sqrt{3}$, which limits how quickly one part of the object can react to changes in another part, which in turn leads to the bound (2). This bound is consistent with observation (ref 1).
$^\dagger$  The condition $v<c/\sqrt{3}$ is called the "causality constraint" in ref 2 and is called the "conformal limit" in ref 4. Other papers use the name "causality constraint" for the looser condition $v<c$. 
This puts a limit on (non-rotating) "almost black holes": the radius must be at least 40% greater than the radius of a black hole. Presumably a similar limit can be derived for the more-realistic case of rotating compact objects, but I'm not familiar with it.
Both the Schwarzschild radius (1) and the conformal limit (2) are indicated near the upper-left corner of this mass-versus-radius figure from ref 3:

The Schwarzschild radius is the boundary of the dark blue region (labeled "GR" for General Relativity"), and the conformal limit (labeled "causality") is the boundary of the upper-left green region. The black curves are various models for neutron stars, and the green curves are models for quark stars.
 The Buchdahl bound 
Equation (2) comes from considering the equation of state for ultrarelativistic particles. If a realistic equation of state could exceed the conformal limit, then maybe the conformal limit (2) could be beaten. Table 2 in ref 4 suggests that this might be possible. I'm not familiar enough with that work to comment on how realistic that is, but in any case we still have the Buchdahl bound. The Buchdahl bound comes from requiring that the pressure at the center of the object is finite and that the density decreases away from the center (ref 2). The Buchdahl bound is
$$
 R > \frac{9}{4}\,\frac{GM}{c^2},
\tag{3}
$$
which says that the radius of an "almost black hole" must be at least 12% greater than the Schwarzschild radius.
This again assumes a non-rotating object. I don't know what the generalization is for a rotating object.
 Bending of light 
As explained in ref 5, if light comes close to a certain critical radius of a sufficiently compact object, the gravity can be so strong that the light loops around the object arbitrarily many times before leaving the vicinity, and it can leave in any direction (depending on the precise details of how close to the critical radius). That critical radius is $3 GM/c^2$, 50% larger than the Schwarzschild radius, so an object as compact as (2) or (3) would show this effect. Here's an example from figure 3 in ref 5:

The shaded area is a circle with the Schwarzschild radius (so the compact object will be a bit larger than this), the dashed line shows the critical radius (equations (2) and (3) represent objects smaller than this), and the solid line is the trajectory of the light. The same paper also includes several other figures illustrating various light-bending effects due to such a compact object.
The idea of searching for neutron stars (and other compact objects) using their gravitational-lensing effect has received some attention. Ref 6 is one example.

References:

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*Lattimer and Prakash, "Neutron Star Observations: Prognosis for Equation of State Constraints", https://arxiv.org/abs/astro-ph/0612440


*Eksi, "Neutron stars: compact objects with relativistic gravity", https://arxiv.org/abs/1511.04305


*Lattimer, "The Nuclear Equation of State and Neutron Star Masses", https://arxiv.org/abs/1305.3510


*Li et al, "Neutron star equation of state: Exemplary modeling and applications", https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2214404820300355


*Kraus (1998), "Light Deflection Near Neutron Stars", https://www.spacetimetravel.org/licht/licht.html (includes a link to download the PDF file)


*Dai et al, "Gravitational microlensing by neutron stars and radio pulsars", https://arxiv.org/abs/1502.02776
