In Padmanabhan's book Gravitation Foundations and Frontiers, the following equation can regarding the extrinsic curvature of a hypersurface can be found in section 12.2 (see just above equation 12.19 in that book),
\begin{align} K_{\alpha\beta}=-\nabla_\alpha n_\beta=-N\Gamma^0_{\alpha\beta}. \end{align}
According to the book's convention greek indices run for spatial coordinates ($\alpha=1,2,3$) and latin indices run for space-time coordinates ($a=0,1,2,3$). Thus the above equation gives an expression for the spatial components of the extrinsic curvature, $K_{\alpha\beta}$. Here, $n^a$ is the vector field normal to the hypersurface and $N$ is the lapse function. Now the book claims if we expand the Christoffel symbol, we shall get the following expression (see equation 12.19 in the book),
$$K_{\alpha\beta}=\frac{1}{2N}\left(D_\alpha N_{\beta}+D_\beta N_{\alpha}-\partial_0 h_{\alpha\beta}\right)$$
Here, $N^\alpha$ is the shift vector, $h_{\alpha\beta}$ is the induced spatial metric on the hypersurface, and $D_m$ is the intrinsic covariant derivative on the hypersurface with its action on the purely spatial vectors $X_s$, which satisfies a constraint like $X_sn^s=0$, defined as
$$D_mX_s=h^a_mh^b_s\nabla_aX_b,$$
where, $h^a_b=\delta^a_b+n^an_b$ are the projection tensor on the hypersurface, and $\nabla_a$ is the usual covariant derivative for the spacetime.
I have failed to derive the equation 12.19 giving the expression for $K_{\alpha\beta}$. Below I show, how I tried to do it. The Christoffel symbol can be expanded as, \begin{align} \Gamma^0_{\alpha\beta}&=\frac{1}{2}g^{0a}\left(\partial_\alpha g_{\beta a}+\partial_\beta g_{\alpha a}-\partial_a g_{\alpha\beta}\right)\nonumber\\ &=\frac{1}{2}g^{00}\left(\partial_\alpha g_{\beta 0}+\partial_\beta g_{\alpha 0}-\partial_0 g_{\alpha\beta}\right)+\frac{1}{2}g^{0\gamma}\left(\partial_\alpha g_{\beta \gamma}+\partial_\beta g_{\alpha \gamma}-\partial_\gamma g_{\alpha\beta}\right)\nonumber\\ &=\frac{-1}{2}N^{-2}\left(\partial_\alpha N_{\beta}+\partial_\beta N_{\alpha}-\partial_0 h_{\alpha\beta}\right)+\frac{1}{2}N^{-2}N^{\gamma}\left(\partial_\alpha h_{\beta \gamma}+\partial_\beta h_{\alpha \gamma}-\partial_\gamma h_{\alpha\beta}\right)\nonumber\\ &=\frac{-1}{2}N^{-2}\left(D_\alpha N_{\beta}+D_\beta N_{\alpha}+2\Gamma^\gamma_{\alpha\beta}N_{\gamma}-\partial_0 h_{\alpha\beta}\right)+\frac{1}{2}N^{-2}N^{\gamma}\left(\partial_\alpha h_{\beta \gamma}+\partial_\beta h_{\alpha \gamma}-\partial_\gamma h_{\alpha\beta}\right)\nonumber\\ &=\frac{-1}{2}N^{-2}\left(D_\alpha N_{\beta}+D_\beta N_{\alpha}-\partial_0 h_{\alpha\beta}\right)-N^{-2}\Gamma^\gamma_{\alpha\beta}N_{\gamma}+\frac{1}{2}N^{-2}N^{\gamma}\left(\partial_\alpha h_{\beta \gamma}+\partial_\beta h_{\alpha \gamma}-\partial_\gamma h_{\alpha\beta}\right) \end{align} In the above, I have used the facts that, $$n_0=-N,\quad n_\alpha=0,$$ $$D_\alpha N_\beta=h^a_\alpha h^b_\beta\nabla_a N_b=\partial_\alpha N_\beta-\Gamma^\gamma_{\alpha\beta}N_\gamma,$$ $$h_{00}=N^\gamma N_\gamma,\quad h_{0\alpha}=N_\alpha,\quad h_{\alpha\beta}=g_{\alpha\beta}$$