So here I am, answering my own question...
Long story short -- I found the answer Section 3.2.4 of Condon and Ransom's 'Essential Radio Astronomy, in page 149 of 'Tools of Radio Astronomy' [Rohlfs/Wilson/Huttemeister 5/e 2009], and page 24 of 'Radio Astronomy' [Pawsey/Bracewell 1955]. I will now express that answer in my own words to save the reader a click!
Interestingly, one part of this proof comes from Thermodynamics--specifically the Rayleigh-Jeans Law which says that, given a black body at temperature $T$, the spectral radiance $B_{\nu}$ (power radiated per unit solid-angle per unit area per unit frequency) is given by:
$$
B_{\nu} = \frac {2 {\nu}^2 k T }{c^2} = \frac {2 k T }{{\lambda}^2}
$$
Another part is the power spectral density of thermal noise, which is:
$$
\frac {dP}{d\nu}=kT
$$
Now we consider two spherical cavities made of perfectly absorbing material, at thermal equilibrium with temperature $T$. Now, we have an isotropic antenna of effective aperture (seen from any direction -- by definition) $A_e$ at the center of the first cavity, and a matched resistor $R$ at the center of the second. The antenna and the resistor are connected through a transmission line and a filter that passes frequencies between $\nu$ and $\nu + d\nu$. Like this:

The walls will emit blackbody radiation. The antenna will collect it, as will the resistor (as thermal noise.) Once collected, the power has nowhere else to go except down the transmission line towards the other cavity. Power outside the frequency band $\left[\nu, \nu+d\nu\right]$ meets infinite impedance at the filter, and is reflected right back to where it was received -- and is re-radiated back into the original cavity, electromagnetically in the left cavity, and thermally in the right.
Now the power 'seen' from the point in space where the antenna is located, as in the surface integral of the Poynting vector taken around the point, will be:
$$
\int_0^{\infty} \left(\int_{4\pi}A_e\;B_{\nu}\;d\Omega\right)d\nu
$$
But this radiation is unpolarized, so the antenna can collect power from only one polarization -- only half of what is available. So in the left-hand cavity we have the following power collected by the antenna in the frequency band of our interest:
$$
d\nu\;\frac 12 \int_{4\pi} A_e\;B_{\nu}\;d\Omega
= d\nu\;\frac {A_e kT} {\lambda^2} \int_{4\pi} 1\;d\Omega
= d\nu\;\frac {4\pi A_ekT} {\lambda^2}
$$
On the right hand side, the thermal noise power generated by the resistor in the frequency band of our interest will be
$$
kT\;d\nu
$$
Since the two cavities are at the same temperature, by the second law of thermodynamics, no net power can flow beween the two cavities. Thus the power collected by the antenna must equal the noise power generated by the resistor. Thus:
$$
d\nu\;\frac {4\pi A_e kT} {\lambda^2} = kT\;d\nu
$$
... and therefore:
$$
A_e = \frac {\lambda^2} {4\pi}
$$