I may be flat-out wrong here, but it seems to me there is a very common misunderstanding of what the double slit experiment results mean, at least by non-physicists, because of the way it is often explained.
The experiment shows that photons behave differently, as particle or waves, depending on how we choose to observe them. The implication is that reality depends on the observer, that somehow the point of view defines the reality. I think this is a widely held misinterpretation of these results (at least by non-physicists), which is almost never clarified when explaining the double slit experiment.
To avoid this confusion I think it is crucial to always clarify that what makes the photon behave as a particle rather than a wave is that it interacted with something else, regardless of being observed or not. Observation requires interaction, so it is true that observation results in particle-like behavior. However, interaction does not require observation. The photon could have interacted with anything else and it would have behaved as a particle, even if no human ever observed it. So it's not really saying that reality depends on the observer, its just that when quantum waves interact with other systems, they behave as particles. When seen this way, it's not nearly as mind-bending.
Am I wrong?
Thanks!