Why is gravity so hard to unify with the other 3 fundamental forces? Electricity and magnetism was unified in the 19th century, and unification of electromagnetism with the weak force followed suit, bringing into play the electroweak force.
I've been told that unifying these with the strong force is likely to be far easier than unifying them with gravity, albeit still very hard. 
Apparently this is because of the fact that electromagnetic, weak nuclear and weak nuclear force equations are relatively similar, whereas the equations for gravity differ greatly.
What are the fundamental differences between these equations? (If you could write some that would be great, and then explain the technical differences, if necessary.)
What is it about these differences that make them much harder to unify?
 A: A detailed account of the subtleties and technicalities that highlight the problem, is a research topic by itself!
An attempt is made here to provide some brief discussion on epistemological arguments, without mathematical jargon or detailed phenomenology, which I am sure some would wish to complement or improve. I would welcome it.
There are a number of reasons which, when combined, can help us understand why we don’t see how to proceed in the endeavour of finding a good theory of quantum gravity and hence unify it with the other forces of nature. The main reason is the physically different structures of the gravitational force and the other forces of nature. When it comes to gravity, even the notion of quantum fluctuations of the fields is already problematic. While for the other forces of nature quantum fluctuations have meaningful interpretation and are relatively "easy" to calculate.
Another possible reason is, the tools we are using and the philosophy we hold on the notion of quantisation of fields, and that we try to push this philosophy to include gravity.  This has been realised in the “old” approaches, in which attempts were made to construct perturbatively renormalizable theories of quantum gravity. They have all suffered from one or another shortcoming.
A successful quantum field theory allows us to do calculations, and extract sensible results which then can be tested against experiments. In the two main approaches to quantum gravity, string theory and loop quantum gravity, such testable calculations have not been possible to access experimentally, due to the large amount of energies required. So the results of these theories remain at best, at the present time, just theoretical speculations. But both these theories are still being developed and by no means they are, at this stage, completed theories of nature. 
A: If you go back to the origins, the difficulty in merging gravity with the other forces mostly stems from general relativity being a purely geometric theory -- again, that's in its original form -- and all the other forces being quantum, by which I mostly mean they are conveyed by well-defined force particles. The photon as the particle that conveys the electromagnetic field is the simplest example, but the idea carries over very well to both the weak and strong forces.
General relativity in contrast works very, very well without even invoking such concepts, or for that matter particles in general. As Einstein formulated it, GR really, truly is all about curved spaces.
By analogy it was subsequently assumed -- I think sometime back in the 1960s or perhaps 1950s? -- that gravity must also have a quantum form, but it's always been an assumption, not an absolute proof, a sort of "it worked here, and here, and here... so surely it also works just as well for the last force, gravity?"
But it's a bit tough to bridge such a huge gap. It's reasonably easy to provide a general description of gravity as a universally attractive force, although even there you quickly get into odd infinity problems not seen with other forces. But if you do that... what happened to all that part about the space being curved? The simplest possible all-attractive quantum force model would simply keep space as a rigid framework and do everything pretty much as with the electromagnetic force, only with a single type of charge (mass).
So, you can do one (curved space), or you can do the other (universal graviton-mediated quantum attraction), but it's not trivial to do both. And no matter how you do it, the other forces don't directly bend space, which keeps gravity pretty unique.
Consequently, the details never seem to work out quite right, and many books have been written about why that might be. 
A: In my view, basic thing is that General Relativity is a deterministic theory and Gravity manifests at macroscopic level, whereas Quantum theory is a probabilistic theory and manifests at microscopic level, and other forces operate at this level. Hence it is difficult to unify these theories. There have been serious efforts during past five decades by theoretical physicists / particle physicists / mathematicians to give a satisfactory Quantum Theory of Gravity, and there have been 1. Kuchar - Isham 's Canonical approach 2. B. DeWitt's covariant approach 3. Ashtekar's loop quantum gravity approach 4. Penrose's Twistor theory approach etc. but as yet we don't have a fully satisfactory theory. Perhaps, we need New Mathematical theory like Non-Commutative Geometry to unify these two, who knows !
A: If gravity is considered as a pressure instead of attraction, and matter is the result of that pressure, energy curling in on itself into spheres when the force of pressure is larger than the opposing force of expanding energy, wouldn´t that fit better with distribution of matter in the universe?
Mass in spacetime defined as density of matter and energy, treated as a potential in a cavity instead of a weight, since space is weightless, seems more logical than an attracting force as a property of mass. If a body in space is a product of pressure resulting from energy excerting a force on it´s surroundings, pushing a bulge in the opposing force and exists in a balanced state levelling potential to zero, integrates gravity into energy through combination of opposing forces of energy c*c.
If we assume that all forces have an equal opposing force, by only accepting the fact that observed massenergydensity at any point is the product of stellar thermal energy meeting an opposing equal force condensating energy by reflecting it into a standing wave moving in opposite directions forcing it to expand into 3 dimensional form from 0, nothing needs gravity to pull it together, it is held by equal pressure from all directions. 
Condensation happens when energy is cancelled out by interaction of equal states resulting in a phase change where energy takes on a new geometrical distribution. 
Isn´t it necessesary for matter to exist, that there is an opposing force that cancels stellar energy in space, accelerating it to a squared state in the opposite direction, making it expand from a point into a sphere balancing it in all directions to the opposing force coming from all directions?
Is matter only geometry in spherical shape, as volumes of pressure were light bounces around? Both as photons and planets?
Does time exist? The past and future is defined by it´s nonexistance. There is nothing else but now and it is constant.
If big bang is the root, doesn´t that mean that any particle contains information about all other particles at any given point in time?
If our planet is a quantum system, wouldn`t it be impossible to measure as we live inside the wavefunction and are part of it?
