This is problem number 50 from the third chapter of potentials from Griffiths:
Two charge distributions, $\rho_1(\textbf{r})$ produces a potential $V_1(\mathbf{r})$ and some other charge distribution $\rho_2(\mathbf{r})$ produces a potential $V_2(\mathbf{r})$. We are asked to prove $$\int_\limits{\mathit{all \,space}} \rho_1 V_1\, d\tau = \int_\limits{{all \, space}} \rho_2 V_1 \, d\tau$$ Which is known as "Green's reciprocity theorem"
Here's what I did and the author suggested
We can write$$\int \vec{E_1}\cdot\vec{E_2} \,d\tau$$ in two different ways by writing $\vec{E} = -\nabla{V}$
So using the product rule and integrating by parts I arrive at $$\ -\oint_\mathcal{S} V_1 \vec{E_2} \cdot d \vec{a} \, + \int_\mathcal{V} V_1 \frac{\rho_2}{\epsilon_0} d\tau=\ -\oint_\mathcal{S} V_2 \vec{E_1} \cdot d \vec{a} \, + \int_\mathcal{V} V_2 \frac{\rho_1}{\epsilon_0} d\tau $$
Now I make this argument: "Integrating over all space will make the surface integrals vanish as both $V_1, V_2 \to 0$ for an arbitrarily large volume." I'm unsure about this as the charge distribution may themselves go on to infinity(?) In that case the integrals won't vanish, I think. Is this argument correct?
Also I would like to ask if Green's reciprocity theorem is simply a mathematical coincidence (which seems unlikely to me) or does it also have any physical significance as well.
Also I'm a high school senior graduating in a few months aspiring to be a physicist. I'm reading EM by Griffiths and was wondering if there are any other good reads that I can check out. I'm willing to work hard to understand the subject. I have read vector calculus only up to Griffiths level but I will brush that up if needed.