Here are links scattering of black holes studies:
We study systems consisting of several maximally charged, nonrotating black holes (‘‘Reissner-Nordstrom’’ black holes) interacting with one another. We present an effective action for the system in the slow-motion, fully strong-field regime. We give an exact calculation of black-hole–black-hole scattering and coalescence in the slow-motion (but strong-field) limit.
The classical and the quantum scattering of two maximally-charged dilaton black holes which have low velocities are studied. We find a critical value for the dilaton coupling, a2=1/3. For a2>1/3, two black holes are always scattered away and never coalesce together, regardless of the value of the impact parameter.
We describe the quantum mechanical scattering of slowly moving maximally
charged black holes. Our technique is to develop a canonical
quantization procedure on the parameter space of possible static classical solutions. With this, we compute the capture cross sections for the scattering of two black holes. Finally,we discuss how quantization on this parameter space relates to quantization of the degrees of freedom of the gravitational field
The low-energy dynamics of any system admitting a continuum of static configurations is approximated by slow motion in moduli (configuration) space. Here, following Ferrell and Eardley, this moduli space approximation is utilized to study collisions of two maximally charged Reissner--Nordström black holes of arbitrary masses, and to compute analytically the gravitational radiation generated by their scattering or coalescence. The motion remains slow even though the fields are strong, and the leading radiation is quadrupolar. A simple expression for the gravitational waveform is derived and compared at early and late times to expectations.
So, I would think that a general geometrical proof of impossibility of scattering, would be against all these calculations, and as they are in peer reviewed literature, the probability of such a mistake is small.
This article is interesting:
Binary black hole:
binary black hole (BBH) is a system consisting of two black holes in close orbit around each other.
Here it treats the shape of the horizon as a merger starts
One of the problems to solve is the shape or topology of the event horizon during a black-hole merger.
In numerical models, test geodesics are inserted to see if they encounter an event horizon. As two black holes approach each other, a ‘duckbill’ shape protrudes from each of the two event horizons towards the other one. This protrusion extends longer and narrower until it meets the protrusion from the other black hole. At this point in time the event horizon has a very narrow X-shape at the meeting point. The protrusions are drawn out into a thin thread. The meeting point expands to a roughly cylindrical connection called a bridge.
In a system where black holes scatter of each other , it will depend on the kinematics whether there will be a scatter or a merger, as with the binary black hole system. See figure two . Imo, once there is a coalescence the question of "decay" addresses one black hole, and by construction it cannot happen.