After years, I still find myself having trouble really internalizing the meaning of various differentials in integrals—specifically, when they come about via reasoning regarding physical phenomena. When I come back for review, I fall prey to the same problems I had when originally learning the material. It's not that I don't necessarily understand the correct solution, but I more often than not don't understand why the incorrect one is incorrect.
Example 1: Consider the process of deriving the moment of inertia of a thin disk of mass $M$ and radius $R$. My immediate thought is "I'd like to derive this by summing the moment of inertia of concentric rings of various radii."
$$I = \sum m_i r_i^2$$ ... where $m_i$ is the mass of a particle on the ring and $r_i$ will be the distance of the particle from the center of the ring (or, the ring's radius).
The moment of inertia of one point on the circumference of the ring of radius $r$ is:
$$dI_{ring} = dm ~ r^2 = \left(\frac{m}{\pi R^2}\right)r^2$$
... but shouldn't there be a $dr$ somewhere? It's about here where I flounder around trying to figure out why I don't have a $dr$, what $dr$ really means (so that I can insert it into the appropriate place), whether or not I should actually have $dr$ or $dm$, etc. Then, I ask myself "... what am I really summing over—what would the bounds of integration be?" (From $0$ to $2\pi r$, because I'm summing over tiny piece of the circumference? Am I confusing myself by using $dr$ and not, say, $dS$?)
Example 2: Let's say I get past all that, and find the moment of inertia of a thin hoop of radius $r$ to be $I = \left( \frac{2mr}{R^2}\right)r^2$. I'd now like to sum these hoops to form a disk. So...
$$dI_{disk} = \left( \frac{2mr}{R^2}\right)r^2$$
... where I'd like $r$ to vary from $0$ to $R$. Again, what about $dr$ (or $d\text{[whatever]}$)? Well, I know I want $r$ to vary, so... my integral should look something like...
$$\int_0^R dI$$
... right?
$$\int_0^R \left( \frac{2mr}{R^2}\right)r^2 = \int_0^R \frac{2mr^3}{R^2}$$ ... $dr$?
This will go on for a long time, until I inevitably make a post on Stack Exchange asking for help.
I've read through many examples, and have walked myself through many derivations that fall into this category—and I understand them fully when I do. The problem is, the knowledge that I gain from doing this doesn't seem to generalize. I can't seem to intuit a kind of general rule of thumb for these types of problems, and it's particularly frustrating.
Will someone please help elucidate what this god damned mysterious differential is in such a way that, perhaps, provides a general rule of thumb?