Say you have Earth's mass as $M$ and your object's mass and distance from Earth is $m$ and $r$
Using Newtonian gravity we have the Force experiences by the object to be $F_g = \frac{GMm}{r^2}$ where $G$ is a constant.
Now the force experienced by earth due to the object's mass is $F_{g2} = \frac{GMm}{r^2}$
Acceleration of both objects, $F_1 = ma_1 \to \frac{GMm}{r^2} = ma_1$ so $a_1 = \frac{GM}{r^2}$
$F_2 = \frac{GMm}{r^2} = Ma_2 \to a_2 = \frac{Gm}{r^2}$
The acceleration that the earth experiences is negligible in comparison. The acceleration the object experiences is only due to Earth's mass.
(Note that for considerably large objects the acceleration due to the object's mass would make it seem like the object is accelerating quicker towards Earth than other objects because Earth is moving towards the object fairly quickly too)
If inertial mass $F = ma$ was different from the gravitational mass you would just have a different acceleration for each object BUT every object would still be accelerated at the same magnitude.
ex: $m_g = \frac{m_i}{2}$ then $F_g = \frac{GMm_g}{r^2} = m_ia$ so that $a = \frac{GM}{2r^2}$ and you'd have halved acceleration.