Equivalence of definitions of ADM Mass ADM Mass is a useful measure of a system. It is often defined (Wald 293)
$$M_{ADM}=\frac{1}{16\pi} \lim_{r \to \infty} \oint_{s_r} (h_{\mu\nu,\mu}-h_{\mu\mu,\nu})N^{\nu} dA$$
Where $s_r$ is two sphere with a radius going to infinity.
However, I have also seen the following definition (EDIT: for example, Page 147 of "A Relativists Toolkit"):
$$M_{ADM} = - \frac{1}{8\pi} \lim_{r \to \infty} \oint_{s_r}(H-H_0)\sqrt{\sigma}d^2\theta$$
Where $H_0$ is the extrinsic curvature of $s_r$ embedded in flat space and $H$ is the extrinsic curvature of $s_t$ embedded on a hypersurface of the spacetime.
It is not overly clear to me how these two are related. Obvious we can get the same differential with the follow definition.
$$dA=\sqrt{\sigma}d^2\theta$$
But more so than that it doesn't seem clear why those extrinsic curvatures should be equal to those metric derivatives (times the constant term of $-1/2$). Presumably the fact that we are taking the limit out to $r \to \infty$ is important as we are assuming that the metric should be asymptotically flat (or at least asymptotically constant metric) and these quantities might be reduced to some similar form in the limit.
Any insight?
 A: Your second expression, when the integral is not taken at infinity, is usually known as either the Brown-York or Hawking-Horowitz (quasilocal) mass. It is closely related to the Liu-Yau mass. For a finite radius sphere, it is not equal to the ADM integral in general.
In the original paper of Brown and York, they asserted but did not provide (as far as I can tell) a detailed proof of the asymptotic behaviour of the quasilocal mass. But if you consider an asymptotically flat space-time and take asymptotic Euclidean coordinates, a direct computation should show that the $K_0\to 0$ as a sphere goes to "infinity" (since coordinate spheres in Euclidean space has mean curvature decaying to 0 as the radius increases), and the decay conditions on the metric and the second fundamental form of the spatial slice should guarantee that the difference between $K$ and the coordinate derivative expression tends to zero. (Remember that the space-time mean curvature can be computed from the mean curvature of the spatial slice embedded in the space-time together with the mean curvature of the two sphere embedded in the spatial slice.)
Similar computations were also performed by Brewin.
The convergence of the Brown-York mass to the ADM mass is also recovered in this paper of Miao, Shi, and Tam.
A: First, let's try and clean up the MTW expression a little bit by getting rid of the manifestly coordinate variant stuff, by introducing a proper contraction, a proper integral over the surface at infinity, and the unit normal $r^{a}$ to the surface at infinity:
$$M_{ADM}={16\pi}\oint\sqrt{\gamma}\,\,d^{2}x \gamma^{ab}r^{c}\left(\gamma_{ac,b}-\gamma_{ab,c}\right)$$
This is only valid, however, not just only for in asymptotically flat spaces, but actually only for asymptotically Cartesian coordinates.  You can prove this to yourself by calculating the ``ADM Mass'' of the flat 3-metric in polar coordinates:
$\begin{align*}
16\pi M_{ADM}&=\lim_{r\rightarrow\infty}\oint r^{2}\sin\theta \gamma^{ab}\left(\gamma_{ra,b}-\gamma_{ab,r}\right)d\theta d\phi\\
&=\lim_{r\rightarrow\infty}4\pi r^{2}\left(\gamma^{rr}\gamma_{rr,r}-\gamma^{ab}\gamma_{ab,r}\right)\\
&=\lim_{r\rightarrow\infty}4\pi r^{2}\left(0-\frac{4}{r}\right)\\
&=-\infty
\end{align*}$
Obviously, this is wrong, and just an artifact of the way that spherical coordinates behave at infinity.  To fix this, we need to always subtract the divergence from the ADM mass of flat spacetime from the ADM mass of the coordinate system in question. So, that's the origin of the $H$ and $H_{0}$ terms.  The $H$ term is the extrinsic curvature of the space in question, while $H_{0}$ is the extrinsic curvature of flat spacetime.  Now, it's just a matter of showing that the expression inside the integral is equal to $H$.
Typically, I define the extrinsic curvature as $\gamma^{ab}\nabla_{a}r_{b}$.  So, let's go on an adventure:
$\begin{align*}
H&=\gamma^{ab}\nabla_{a}r_{b}\\
&=\gamma^{ab}\left(\partial_{a}r_{b}-\Gamma_{ab}{}^{c}r_{c}\right)\\
&=\gamma^{ab}\partial_{a}r_{b}-\frac{1}{2}\gamma^{ab}\gamma^{cd}\left(2\gamma_{ad,b}-\gamma_{ab,d}\right)r_{c}\\
&=\gamma^{ab}\partial_{a}\left(\gamma_{bc}r^{c}\right)-\gamma^{ab}r^{c}\left(\gamma_{ac,b}-\frac{1}{2}\gamma_{ab,c}\right)\\
&=\delta^{a}{}_{c}\partial_{a}r^{c} + \gamma^{ab}r^{c}\gamma_{bc,a}-\gamma^{ab}r^{c}\left(\gamma_{ac,b}-\frac{1}{2}\gamma_{ab,c}\right)\\
&=\partial_{a}r^{a}-\frac{1}{2}\gamma^{ab}r^{c}\left(\gamma_{ac,b}-\gamma_{ab,c}\right)
\end{align*}$
Now, we note that in any coodinate system adapted so that the coordinate $r=constant$ that determines the surface is chosen for one of the coordinates, we have, necessarily $r^{a}=(1,0,0)$, we note that $\partial_{a}r^{a}=0$, and we thus conclude that the two expressions for ADM mass are equivalent.
A: The question  is given as  a practice problem in Poisson's book "Relativists Toolkit" (p. 159, problem #7) along with some helpful hints.
The tensor $\gamma_{ab}$ (which is  not a tensor at all) must be defined in the following way: Let $h_{ab}$ be the induced 3-metric on the spacelike hypersurface $\Sigma$, and let on its boundary, $\partial \Sigma$, be difined the two-metric $\sigma_{ab}$.  Then define
$$
\gamma_{ab}=h_{ab}-h^{(0)}_{ab}
$$
where $h^{(0)}_{ab}$ is the induced metric in the Minkowski limit (the asymptotic condition gives $\sigma_{ab}=\sigma^{(0)}_{ab}$). 
Further, define the derivation $D_a$ to be the covariant derivative associated to the flat metric $h^{(0)}_{ab}$. Then, 
$$
M_{ADM}=\frac1{16\pi}\oint_{\partial \Sigma}\sqrt{\sigma}d^2\theta\ r^a(D^b\gamma_{ab}-D_a\gamma)
$$ 
which is shown by direct calculation to equal
$$
M_{ADM}=-\frac1{16\pi}\oint \sqrt{\sigma}d^2\theta\ r^ch^{(0)ab}\ \partial_c\gamma_{ab}
$$
and this is the same as $M_{ADM}=-\frac1{8\pi}\oint \sqrt{\sigma}d^2\theta\ (H-H_0)$ through a straighforward comparison.  (Specifically, by evaluating $H=\partial_a r^a+\frac12 r^ch^{(0)ab}\partial_c h_{ab}$)
