A object which passes the event horizon need a finite proper time for this. But a infinite far observer wouldn't see that the object passes the event horizon. But if the observer doesn't see this, would he be possible to recognize the increase of mass, charge and angular momentum of the black hole? With the increasing mass of the black hole also the Schwarzschild radius will increase, how can the observer interpret this?
The no hair theorem (that sufficiently symmetric systems that don't change in time ate characterized by their charge, angular momentum and energy) is purely about a time independent system.
Essentially that means that as time goes on you can get closer and closer to one of those systems.
So if you approach a black hole event horizon people on the outside can see the combination of original black bole plus new thing falling in look more and more like a combined system of possibly different charge (if the in fall has charge), possibly different energy (if the in fall has some effective energy), and possibly different angular momentum (if the in fall has some effective angular momentum).