Let keep the problem as simple as possible. To start with some assumptions.
- The outside, or ambient temperature $T_a$ is constant.
- The temperature of your house $T_h$, is uniform over for your whole house, but a function of time $T_h(t)$. (Also known as an ideally stirred tank)
- The flow of heat out of your house is proportional can be cast into one heat transfer coefficient $h$ ($h$ will be smaller when your house is insulated better)
No heating
The budget of heat for your house, contains two terms, the change in amount of heat in your house, and the flow out of your house.
$$ c\frac{dT_h(t)}{dt}=-h(T_h(t)-T_a)$$
Where c is a constant related to the amount of heat that can be stored in your house (including the amount of heat stored in the walls, the size of your house, etc).
This is easy to solve $T_h(t)=T_a+(T_h(0)-T_a)e^{-\frac{h}{c} t}$
Now, if you come back at your home, you want to heat your house from $T_h(t)$ back to $T_h(0)$. Your electrical heater should gives this amount of heat, which is just $c(T_h(t)-T_h(0))$, which equals to
$$ Q_a = c \Big(T_a-T_h(0)\Big)\Big(1-e^{-\frac{h}{c}t_{away}}\Big)$$
where $Q$ is the amount of heat delivered by the heater and $t_{away}$ the time you've been absent.
Heater on
When you keep your heater on the whole time. The amount of heat delivered by your heater, is constant and equal to $$Q_b=-h t_{away} (T_h(0)-T_a)$$
Now, if you are away for a short period of time, you can linearize the exponent, and you see that the amount of heat that you need to put in your house by the heater is the same to first order. However, as your away-time increases, the amount of electricity you need in the first case will reach a constant value, while if you canstantly heat your house the electricity you need will increase linearly.
The heat capacity of the walls you mention, will in principle affect the constants $c$ (related to total heat capacity) and $h$ (related to heat lose), will only change the timescale for which both approaches are more or less equivalent, but it will not change the physics or equations.
So, to conclude: you should determine the values of $c$ and $h$ of your house. You can measure h by trying the second method once. And then c by trying out the first method. Good luck!