I've tried very hard to find an answer to this question, and every path leads me to an abstract discussion of fundamental forces. Therefore, I will propose two very specific scenarios and see if they yield the result that I am looking for.
Scenario One
Let's say that I have a vertical tube exactly 1 inch in diameter that is completely incapable of holding an electromagnetic charge and has a frictionless surface. Resting inside this tube is a steel ball also exactly 1 inch in diameter. If a cylindrical magnet, also exactly 1 inch in diameter is slowly lowered into the tube, how does one determine the exact point at which the force being applied to the steel ball by the magnet will cause the ball to overcome gravity and rise toward the magnet? Is there even any way to determine this? What further information would I need?
Scenario Two
I have the same tube from above with the cylindrical magnet resting on the bottom of the tube, north pole facing upward. Suspended by a weightless string in the tube is an identical magnet, north pole facing downward. If the bottom magnet is slowly raised, how does one calculate the exact point at which the suspended magnet will begin to move upward? Is this calculation possible? What further information would I need for this calculation?
Extra Question
How are weight capacities on magnets calculated? I.e. if a whitepaper says that a magnet is capable of lifting 25 pounds, how is the correct size magnet calculated?