I recently got a more complete proof of photons having no mass. (I knew it before, but now I really know it.) But now, I'm curious how gravitational lensing can occur without a mass to act on.
I have heard that space is like a sheet and gravity works because the more massive an object is, the more it bends space. I heard that when I was five years old. When I got older I questioned how that would work, seeing as space is 3-dimensional. The answer I eventually cobbled together from a plethora of excellent resources was this:
Gravity is like a point light source. At the center, you have the most intense light. As you move outward the intensity decreases with the square of the distance. Like light, gravity radiates in all directions simultaneously.
This works well for me, and I still believe it to be accurate. However, when I was thinking about photons, I realized that you cannot apply a force to an object without mass. At least, you can't by standard Newtonian thinking. This is because $F=ma$. With no mass, you can have no force. Alternately, you could rearrange to $\frac{F}{m}=a$. With no mass, and no force, you can have no acceleration.
Yet gravity is able to refract light.
How is this possible? Like $E=mc^2$, does this only apply to a specific set of conditions?