I apologize if this question is trivial, but I am new to physics and am struggling with some of the basic concepts.
Working in $\mathbb{R}^2$ with standard coordinates $(x,y)$, suppose we have a particle of mass $m$ moving on a curve $(x(t),y(t))\in\mathbb{R}^2$. It's tangent vector (velocity vector) is $$x^\prime(t)\frac{\partial}{\partial x}+y^\prime(t)\frac{\partial}{\partial y} \ \ \ \ \ \ \ \ \ \ (1)$$This particle's kinetic energy is $\frac{1}{2}m\left((x^\prime(t))^2+(y^\prime(t))^2\right)$. Also, suppose we have some conservative force $F$ so that $F=\left(\frac{\partial U}{\partial x},\frac{\partial U}{\partial y}\right)$ where $U$ is some smooth potential $U:\mathbb{R}^2\to\mathbb{R}$.
Anything I've read says the kinetic energy in polar coordinates is $$\frac{1}{2}m\left((\dot r)^2+(r\dot\theta)^2\right)$$ and the force in the $r$ and $\theta$ directions are $$F_r=-\frac{\partial U}{\partial r} \ \ \ \ \text{ and } \ \ \ \ F_\theta=\frac{1}{r}\frac{\partial U}{\partial \theta}$$
For the second point, I don't understand what it means to say force in the $r$ or $\theta$-direction. It's clear the force in the $x$-direction is just the first component of $F$, but is the force in the $r$-direction just the first component of $F$ in polar coordinates? I don't see how that really makes sense. Also, computing $\frac{\partial U}{\partial x}=\frac{\partial U}{\partial r}\frac{\partial r}{\partial x}+\frac{\partial U}{\partial \theta}\frac{\partial \theta}{\partial x}$ (and similarily $\frac{\partial U}{\partial y}$) I can see where these terms pop up, but don't get how to put the concepts together.
For the first point, I don't understand how they are getting these equations, and especially how they get them so fast! If you use the change of variables formula (i.e. $\frac{\partial}{\partial x}=\frac{\partial r}{\partial x}\frac{\partial}{\partial r}+\frac{\partial\theta}{\partial x}\frac{\partial}{\partial \theta}$ and so on) on equation $(1)$, compute $x^\prime , y^\prime$, and collect like terms you get that the velocity vector above is $\dot r\frac{\partial}{\partial r}+r\dot\theta\frac{\partial}{\partial\theta}$. This takes some work but in this form it makes sense, to me, to say that the kinetic energy in polar coordinates is $\frac{1}{2}m\left((\dot r)^2+(r\dot\theta)^2\right)$. But any book I've read just computes this extremely quick by saying $$x^\prime(t)=\dot r\cos\theta +r\dot\theta\sin\theta \ \ \ \ \text{ and } \ \ \ \ y^\prime(t)=\dot r\sin\theta-r\dot\theta\cos\theta$$I see sometimes $\hat r=(\cos\theta,\sin\theta)$ and $\hat\theta=(-\sin\theta,\cos\theta)$ but how can you have a "basis" that changes at every point?
Any help would be greatly appreciated!!