I start doing some computations in manifolds with non vanishing torsion and things are getting a bit confused, basically because of notations and definitions. I understand that in presence of non vanishing torsion, one has two fundamental objects: \begin{align} \text{The metric} \quad g_{\mu\nu} & & \text{The torsion tensor} \quad T{^\rho}_{\mu\nu} \end{align} The Torsion tensor is defined as \begin{equation} T{^\rho}_{\mu\nu} \equiv \tilde{\Gamma}{^\rho}_{\mu\nu}-\tilde{\Gamma}{^\rho}_{\nu\mu} = 2\tilde{\Gamma}{^\rho}_{[\mu\nu]} \end{equation} where $\tilde{\Gamma}{^\rho}_{\mu\nu}$ is the affine connection so that the covariant derivatives $\nabla_{\mu}$ of any vector $A^{\rho}$ and any form $a_{\nu}$ are respectively \begin{align} \nabla_{\mu}A^{\rho} = \partial_{\mu}A^{\rho} +\tilde{\Gamma}{^\rho}_{\mu\nu}A^{\nu} & & \nabla_{\mu}a_{\nu} = \partial_{\mu}a_{\nu} -\tilde{\Gamma}{^\rho}_{\mu\nu}a_{\rho} & & \end{align} In Shapiro's article (2001) it says (page 8, equations (2.8) and 2.9)):
The metricity condition enables one to express the connection through the metric and torsion in a unique way as \begin{equation} \tilde{\Gamma}{^\rho}_{\mu\nu} = \Gamma{^\rho}_{\mu\nu}+K{^\rho}_{\mu\nu} \end{equation} where $K{^\rho}_{\mu\nu}$ is the contorsion tensor define as \begin{equation} K{^\rho}_{\mu\nu} = \frac{1}{2}\left(T{^\rho}_{\mu\nu}-T{_\mu}{^\rho}{_\nu}-T{_\nu}{^\rho}{_\mu}\right) \tag{1} \end{equation}
I tried to derive this last formula, but I find a different result. Here's my derivation: \begin{align} \nabla_{\mu}g_{\rho\nu} & = \partial_{\mu}g_{\rho\nu}-\tilde{\Gamma}{^\sigma}_{\mu\rho}g_{\sigma\nu}-\tilde{\Gamma}{^\sigma}_{\mu\nu}g_{\rho\sigma} = 0 \\ \nabla_{\nu}g_{\rho\mu} & = \partial_{\nu}g_{\rho\mu}-\tilde{\Gamma}{^\sigma}_{\nu\rho}g_{\sigma\mu}-\tilde{\Gamma}{^\sigma}_{\nu\mu}g_{\rho\sigma} = 0 \\ -\nabla_{\rho}g_{\mu\nu} & = -\partial_{\rho}g_{\mu\nu}+\tilde{\Gamma}{^\sigma}_{\rho\mu}g_{\sigma\nu}+\tilde{\Gamma}{^\sigma}_{\rho\nu}g_{\mu\sigma} = 0 \end{align} Summing up these three equations one gets \begin{align} {\color{blue}{\Big(\partial_{\mu}g_{\rho\nu}+\partial_{\nu}g_{\rho\mu}-\partial_{\rho}g_{\mu\nu}\Big)}} +g_{\nu\sigma}\Big(\tilde{\Gamma}{^\sigma}_{\rho\mu}-\tilde{\Gamma}{^\sigma}_{\mu\rho}\Big)& +g_{\mu\sigma}\Big(\tilde{\Gamma}{^\sigma}_{\rho\nu}-\tilde{\Gamma}{^\sigma}_{\nu\rho}\Big)+\\ & {\color{red}{-g_{\rho\sigma}\Big(\tilde{\Gamma}{^\sigma}_{\mu\nu}+\tilde{\Gamma}{^\sigma}_{\nu\mu}\Big)}} = 0 \tag{2} \end{align} Using the fact that $\tilde{\Gamma}{^\sigma}_{\nu\mu} = \tilde{\Gamma}{^\sigma}_{\mu\nu}+T{^\sigma}_{\nu\mu}$, and introducing the Christoffel symbols \begin{equation} \Gamma{^\rho}_{\mu\nu} = \frac{1}{2}g^{\rho\sigma}\left(\partial_{\mu}g_{\sigma\nu}+\partial_{\nu}g_{\mu\sigma}-\partial_{\sigma}g_{\mu\nu}\right) \end{equation} We can rewrite (2) as \begin{equation} {\color{red}{2g_{\rho\sigma}\tilde{\Gamma}{^\sigma}_{\mu\nu}}} = {\color{blue}{2g_{\rho\sigma}\Gamma{^\sigma}_{\mu\nu}}}{\color{red}{-g_{\rho\sigma}T{^\sigma}_{\nu\mu}}}+g_{\nu\sigma}T{^\sigma}_{\rho\mu}+g_{\mu\sigma}T{^\sigma}_{\rho\nu} \end{equation} Hence we get \begin{align} \tilde{\Gamma}{^\rho}_{\mu\nu} & = \Gamma{^\rho}_{\mu\nu} -\frac{1}{2}\Big(T{^\rho}_{\nu\mu}-T{_\mu}{^\rho}{_\nu}-T{_\nu}{^\rho}{_\mu}\Big) = \\ & = \Gamma{^\rho}_{\mu\nu} +\frac{1}{2}\Big(T{^\rho}_{\mu\nu}+T{_\mu}{^\rho}{_\nu}+T{_\nu}{^\rho}{_\mu}\Big) = \Gamma{^\rho}_{\mu\nu}+K{^\rho}_{\mu\nu} \tag{3} \end{align}
Obviously the contorsion tensors in (1) and (3) do not agree. Actually the definition of $K{^\rho}_{\mu\nu}$ that I got can be written as \begin{equation} K{^\rho}_{\mu\nu} = \frac{1}{2}\Big(T{^\rho}_{\mu\nu}-T{_{\mu\nu}}{^\rho}+T{_\nu}{^\rho}{_\mu}\Big) \end{equation} which is the definition that I found in some others references. What is going on? Ultimately what should I take as definition of the contorsion?
Edit The main problem here is that (if I did things correctly) using the conventions of Shapiro (2001) for the torsion and the contorsion tensors, I eventually get a result different from his.