I actually think you've been misled. Usually (in my experience) when people say that space is expanding, what they mean is that the universe is expanding - but that just means that the objects in the universe are getting further apart (or, in the case of a continuous mass/energy distribution, that the density is decreasing with time). This is what the cosmological scale factor $a(\tau)$ is for: it describes the change in the distance between two objects (like galaxies) whose motion is subject to large-scale interactions only.
$$r(t_1) = \frac{a(t_1)}{a(t_2)}r(t_2)$$
Now, because $a(\tau)$ is part of the metric, which specifies the distortion (or "curvature") of spacetime, it's easy to think that this scale factor would characterize the expansion of space itself. But I think that's the wrong interpretation, or at least a confusing interpretation. The scale factor really just relates to measurable distances between objects. So instead of trying to figure out what it means for space to expand, just think about things getting further apart.
Moving on, you're right to say that, if things behave the way we would intuitively expect them to, the expansion of the universe should be slowing down due to gravitational attraction. But the best experimental observations that I am aware of show that the opposite is true: the expansion is speeding up. Unless you're prepared to argue that the experiments were performed or interpreted incorrectly, that means that something nonintuitive must be going on.
There's still a lot of debate about what exactly could be making the expansion of the universe speed up. Whatever it is, cosmologists are calling it dark energy (back in Einstein's day they called it the "cosmological constant"), but nobody has a satisfactory explanation of why this dark energy exists, or what its properties might be, other than the fact that it makes the universe's expansion speed up. This is one of the biggest open questions in modern cosmology.
Inertia would be the primary force
. I can tell you know what you're talking about, and you don't mean Newtonian Force in that sentence, but I suggest you change force to something like factor because new students really tend to think inertia is actually a force. $\endgroup$